I Need Help With My Family... Options

[Princess Bloom36]

Oh ok, here the story. My mom look what I am doing on my labtop. But not on my half sister and not my little sister. I very hate it. I am not going to have sex on internet. I am not running a way from home, but if she does I will leave. My half blood sister is 17 turning 18 soon and my baby sister is 5 turning 6 soon, and I am 14 it not fair..... My mom need to stop it.........

[Zhanneel]

Best solution: talk to her first and have a serious, mature, "I'm not a kid" kind of conversation. At least try this first at the very least.

[musaenchantixthe...]

i agree.
just have a nice serious conversation about it. tell her that your her daughter, that she should be trusting you.

[winxclub-joy]

It's useless, I've been through this before.
Your mother is like, to over-protecting you. If you want to stop it, the only is to do so is demand the reasons from her of why she must do so, and then give her some serious convo about this. And you're right, you're not watching porn, your not doing anything bad through internet, what makes her think that she have the right to do so? If she thinks that she's still right, i suggest that you can just use school computer, or go to computer cafe to use computer. That's what I usually do in the past =p

I know this advice is kind of Wrong, but to treat these types of parents you got to use this method.

[Zhanneel]

If you know you haven't done anything to make your mom worry in the past you should confront your mom and ask her why she distrusts you specifically. Maybe there was a past event that makes your mom worry about you more? And if not, you should ask her why she monitors you and not the other siblings. Best thing to do is gain her trust.

[Princess Bloom36]

Well I am blind in one eye.

[Winx_cutie189]

Can you make it more clear.. I kinda don't understand.. Will your mom leave you?

[P-girl]

Nah, it's not that bad..... I know this situation, I've got myself an overly concerned mother and a (Sometimes) annoying little brother to. My advice is to take it easy. It may sound cheesy, but she does like this because she loves you, and doesn't want you to get hurt. And yes, like the others I vote for the 'I'm not a small kid any more'-talk.

[Another Morning]

My parents did this when I first started frequenting the internet. I agree with everyone else, talk to them and let them know you're mature enough to know what you should and shouldn't be doing online. If they just want to look at the sites you're going to, go ahead and show them. You should be fine since you aren't doing anything bad. Just take them around to the places you normally go and be like, "I go here, here, and here, you'll notice the lack of porn at any of them." If they just want to see what you're doing rather than keeping consistant tabs on you, this should appease them, it worked for me.

This post has been edited by Another Morning: Jun 5 2008, 9:24 PM

[Jahnavi]

Yes, I agree with Another Morning.

I first started going online a lot about 5 years ago, and I was like a little kid then (I was 8 or so, I think), so my parents insisted on seeing all the websites that I visited. After sometime though, they got less and less strict about it, and now they let me do pretty much what I want online, because they know that I'm responsible about it, and I won't go to certain kinds of websites. So, just show your mother what you do online, and tell her that she doesn't need to worry.

[Riiana]

Oh ok, here the story. My mom look what I am doing on my labtop. But not on my half sister and not my little sister. I very hate it. I am not going to have sex on internet. I am not running a way from home, but if she does I will leave. My half blood sister is 17 turning 18 soon and my baby sister is 5 turning 6 soon, and I am 14 it not fair..... My mom need to stop it.........

I know how you feel. My Dad checks my History files on the computer when he comes home from work to check what i've been on.
Well just like show them what site's you normally go on and what they contain, let them have a look around so they see that it's safe.
If I was you I wouldnt get that angry because shes only doing it to make sure you're not talking to any random people who can be peidophiles, which is happening a lot these days, so at least your mum cares enough about you.

[Natasha]

I have to agree with what Zhanneel said, you should talk to your mom about it.
Another thing you could do, is allow her to watch over you.
If she knows your not doing anything wrong then she'll have more trust in you.

[Tecna 01]

Actually they are afraid if you do something bad on the computer. So they keep a watch at you. But also remember they are doing this for your good. They think that you will do smething bad on the computer. No use of telling them because they have fear if you do bad on the computer. So I think what your parents do is a good thing.