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Jul 26 2008, 8:21 AM
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Cosmix Fairy
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As you guys know, I've got into a fight recently with my BFF. But then again, I got into another fight with a friend of mine.
i just don't know why they're starting to pick a fight on me, as if I'm their punching bag or what. No matter how I'm trying to save this 4 years of friendship, it break immediately just like this.
I just can't believe, after we got into a new school, everything turns out to be bad. And I just don't know why they're trying to do this, they never thought of how I felt.
And also, I felt that I'm just an extra human being in my class. I felt that I no longer belong to this animation industry line, also no longer belong to my class. They have neglected me everytime, like hey we're classmates. I just don't know why they're trying to do this.
Can you guys tell me what to do? Because I think that there's nothing much left in life, god has taken away everything
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Jul 26 2008, 3:15 PM
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Cosmix Fairy
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From: Escaping the Matrix
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I had something similar happen to me in high school. My best friend of about 6 years just all of a sudden when crazy, over-obsessive on one guy. That's all she wanted to think about. Any free time she had was spent in the vicinity of where ever he was--went on for about 2 1/2 years. It was more than that though. We were getting on each others' nerves a lot. Like we were trying to pick fights. So I gave up on her for a few years, and not until I had gone into college did we pick up each others' phone numbers and find out how each other was doing. We stopped being good friends, but that's probably just how life works. I don't believe in fate, but I think that it was just the time for us to separate. I met other friends and moved on, and after worrying about it for a while I realized I couldn't let it affect my studies.
Also, in school everyone is still changing and learning more about themselves. Maybe your friends are just changing naturally and becoming more like the adults they will become? Or maybe they are being influenced by other people to be mean to you? I don't want you to lose your track in school because some girls have it in their mind to add like bratty teenagers. Look for more mature classmates who don't treat friendships so passively like your current friends do.
Best thing to do: have a real talk with your friends (like Jahnavi said) and find out why they are being rude to you. If they still dismiss you and continue to treat you unlike a friend (even when you have poured your heart out to them), then they aren't the friends for you. Or they have changed in some way to be incompatible with you. But give it a shot first, and tell them you seriously feel mistreated by them. Don't let them gang up on you and dismiss your worries.
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Jul 28 2008, 11:01 AM
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Cosmix Fairy
Group: Former Staff
Posts: 10,108
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From: SINGAPORE
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they're not my true friends, and they never regard me as one. It's like they kept saying, "True friend will only tells you the truth" It's not that I don't accept facts, but the way they said is somehow had criticized me. But when I said my truthful opinion of them, I do not know why I got fired back. It's totally not fair to me, and I totally dislikes it.
They're such a junk friends, although I'm glad that I've left them but once again I'm going to be a loner. I do not have any problems with my classmates, I just felt that I do not belong to their class anymore, because they had neglected me, ignored me for nothing. =(
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Jul 30 2008, 1:56 AM
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Harmonix Fairy
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Don't worry about people like them, they seem to be making mistakes people make early on, and it might take years to mature them. Here are two things that could possibly happen. You might not get along with those people for some time, but if you run into them a year or two later, they might realize their mistakes and act more mature about the subject and you'll have a better friend than before. Second, unfortunately, if they become a person who refuses to see their errors and have too much pride, they might never change for the better. So you'd be better off without them. Seriously, those are two examples I've had from high school. This is what I've learned from age 14-17, and I've come to terms with that's life. People act ridiculous and while you're seeing things like you should, it's frustrating. Sadly, you have to wait for them to see how their acting. If they don't, you can find much better people than them.
My last year of high school, I felt like a loner for a while, and that really sucks. I felt so alone, but I took that time to realize the kind of person I was becoming. Sounds cheesy, I think, but it's true. That helped me with the relationships I have with others now, because I grew up into the kind of person I'm to be in life, and everything went on from there. I won't lie, it was a difficult time for me and it's a real blow considering self esteem, but looking back, I think I needed it for my own good. Without it, I wouldn't have been able to realize any of this. This is how life goes, unfortunately it feels like it changes and moves on too fast. Just be strong and don't let it get the best of you; you're the only one who can make things better for yourself and you can't do that when things are getting you down.
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Aug 4 2008, 10:48 AM
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Cosmix Fairy
Group: Former Staff
Posts: 10,108
Joined: March 31 2007
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hey, they kinda talk to me now. But not much of them, some of them are couples and I felt bad that I've being a light bulb at the middle. But still, my trust for reality friends are no longer there. I only left you guys now, whom I can trust. I'm now really sad that I don't know what to do.
Today after school while on the way back home, 3 friends of mine were walking in front of me. I didn't called them because I felt that if I did they will give me "That Face". But then, one of them noticed that I'm behind them, and the pretend that as if I'm not there! I was kind of sad, you know.
I know I was been pestering them, but I didn't meant to because I really can't afford to lose friends again. But at the end? I've changed and DID NOT PESTER THEM ANYMORE, they ignored me but also gave me that face as well! If you're me, what will you do?
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