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Dec 13 2009, 6:43 PM
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Cosmix Fairy
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From: wilmington, delaware
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I was recently talking to somebody, apparently they are down and always depressed so i tried to give them some useful advice, but they didnt want to hear it. This person rather have other people pity them and tell him things that would only make him feel better about himself, rather then telling him the truth. To my knowledge this person claims to always be bored and doesnt do anything about it. They dont go to school, they dont go to work they basically really dont do anything, but mope and complain. But when i told them that the world isnt nice and that he should try to achieve some of his goals and make something out of his life regardless of what his condition is, he got made and left. He mainly got mad at the fact that i was telling him the truth, instead of babying him up like everybody else does.
Now am i wrong for telling him the truth of how the world really is, and that he should be making the best out of a bad situation instead of looking for peoples pity?
Or just babyed them up like everybody else is doing just to give him temporary satisfaction.
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Dec 14 2009, 2:13 AM
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Cosmix Fairy
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QUOTE (Hanna @ Dec 13 2009, 08:31 PM) im just gonna ignore this as it's best for my mental health and yes of course we can be friends and Why do you keep saying we can be friends like im asking you for your friendship? Which im not. QUOTE (Hanna @ Dec 13 2009, 08:31 PM) by the way my support group is for people who want to know how my life is going Then Technically its not a "Support Group" if your only giving updates, that sounds like twitter. QUOTE (Hanna @ Dec 13 2009, 08:31 PM) and other things not ''babying'' by the way and i can assure you im doing all i can to be happier with my life if in doubt you can ask my therapist or psychiatrist. Ok, if you say so
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Dec 14 2009, 9:13 AM
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Believix Fairy
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In my opinion the best thing to get happy in live, is something to life for. (I'm not talking people, but a persenal goal). You want to achive it, to do that, you go to school for your education, and learn many other things to achive it. If you do nothing, you can possible get bored and depressed, and that sometimes turn out in committing suicide! Well I have my goal a couple of months, but I was going to school (not that my grades are well, they were terrible ) Now that I know what I want to do in my life, it is also going better at school (ICT class pre-university/MBO in Dutch), because I want it! and something else, your goal must allways be unachiveble, not to much offcourse, it must take sometime, because if it is achiveble right away, you must find an another goal.
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Dec 14 2009, 5:05 PM
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Cosmix Fairy
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From: India
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'Kay, hope no one minds me randomly popping in here, but I just wanted to put in my two-cents'-worth...
Whether we're talking about a small problem or a more serious one, and whether we're talking about Hanna or anyone else, getting through a rough situation isn't easy for anyone. I agree with Terri on this count: when you're down, the thing that counts is being able to dust yourself off and get on with life. You shouldn't let your worries slow you down, whether they're big or small, because things only get better once you focus more on the positive things in life. However, none of us can fully understand a situation unless we're the ones experiencing it. And maybe some people do need a little extra help. Then we should support them as much as possible, without babying them, because people need that when they're going through a tough time. And, at the beginning, support is the only thing that will help them get back on track.
So, sorry for the mini-rant, just wanted to say that.
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Dec 23 2009, 7:00 PM
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Cosmix Fairy
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Hope you don't me adding either...if we are talking about Hanna...
I actually agree of what Jah stated, you can't really tell or understand how it is for a person unless you are expriencing it. Like - My twin brother, infact, is also diagnosed with Asperges and he definately has a hard time - so do I. Mainly, many people are blinded and don't respect my brother, he was once punched in the eye and was slapped across the face for being different. And the list goes on. It really does get annoying, even if I see it with my own eyes. They treat him like rubbish. He doesn't at all act his age and gets low marks. And yes, my brother is babyed and gets most of the attention. So what? He needs it more than me. He needs the support and occasional babying, he needs me to stand up to the others and tell them to 'lay off'. It's hard for them to do it on their own and achieve control of their emotions and body. Extremly hard. It's basically 50% + harder for them. It takes alot of time and disipline, not to mention self-control. It's a hard thing to live with, and I'm sure Hanna will be able to achieve anything that comes to desire... It requires a lot of strength.
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