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Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 13 2009, 3:19 PM

nobody's perfect, so do I. So, what is our imperfections for ladies or gentlemen out there?


I have a small tummy, small chest, uneven body skin-tone (Thanks to my high school sports teacher, curse him), big nose covered with blackheads, acne problem and a T-zone skin. But now I'm happy with the results that my facial consultant gave me and my skin looks less worser now.

And now, I'm dealing with my small tummy again (Since I've been eating alot during holidays, and I just had a MacDonald McSpicy meal with my BFF, dear Bloomfan. All I'm going to do is home-exercise or jogging, so that I can at least lose a bit of weight to maintain my figure for a beach fiesta (Volleyball, what else? xD)

So, I've finished mine imperfections plus some so-called tips. So what's yours?

Posted by: Jahnavi Jan 13 2009, 3:35 PM

Hm... I'm pretty prone to blackheads and things like that... And I guess I'd call my glasses an "imperfection"...
But other than that, I'm pretty slim, and I'm okay with my height... So I'm pretty satisfied with how I look. ^^

Posted by: Winx4eva! Jan 13 2009, 3:38 PM

*shurgs* my finger nails...I bit them...I am getting annoyed on the holiday thing.I put on weight.So I am walking my dog for the last week and swimming.Then it's the pimples...

Posted by: P-girl Jan 13 2009, 3:44 PM

My imperfection is my pale skin. It isn't 'Pretty' pale, it's 'You look like dead warmed up'-pale, all the time. Together with my crooked teeth, dislike for the sun and hatred for garlic, in my younger years, some kids in my class actually believed I was a vampire.

Posted by: Zhanneel Jan 13 2009, 3:59 PM

I think this topic is a great idea Joy =). Lets everyone share their problems and deal with them positively. And since most of us are internet friends and not real-life friends there's no worry that anyone will judge someone else.

Small tummy, yeah, not crazy about that either. So I make sure I exercise whenever I can. Lolz@Joy, I also probably had too many sweets during the holidays (namely pumpkin pie ^^).

My other two problems are things I just have to deal with no matter what. My biggest complaint is my height. Being fully grown at 5 feet (or 152.4 cm) kind of sucks. First and foremost, people take me to be younger than I really am. Then there's the problem of reaching stuff up high, hehe. How I get around this? I either ignore the people who treat me like I'm younger (since it really only matters what I think anyway, I shouldn't worry about them) or prove my age through speaking and acting mature. As for the physical problem of reaching stuff up high...well, that's why they invented counters and table tops, right? The world is my stepping stone, xD. My other "imperfection" is my nose. I used to hate it when I was younger. I thought it was too big for my face. Now I've come to like it because I think it makes my face unique. And I guess proportional to my face it really isn't that big, just seems that way to me.

@Winx4eva: I had the fingernail biting problem all the way until high school. I'm not exactly sure how I stopped, but I think a lot of it had to do with getting frustrated at myself. I think will power played a big role and it was definitely hard to overcome a habit I had been doing for years.

Anywho, thanks for letting me rant ^^.

(Ah, just saw P-girl's post: I hear you on the non-straight teeth problem. My family couldn't afford braces for me, so I just never smiled with my mouth open. Not exactly the most pleasant solution, but I've lived with it forever so I guess I'm used to it.)

Posted by: mightymarty2 Jan 13 2009, 7:01 PM

i never have smiled with my mouth open, well dry skin and my back seems to get spots and then get better then get worse, also exam have left my arm in bad shape especially the left just above the center when i get stressed. Also i would say i am a bit over weight

Posted by: Bloom girl Jan 13 2009, 7:18 PM

Oh.., fortunately I don´t have problem with my weight (I´m very thin about... 36 or 37 kilos) and I also go to a gym and I learn dance there.
My problem is my height ! I ´m only 1,55 metres tall ! (I dont´t know how it is my height in feet)And this thing with my finger nails is another problem , too .My skin is full of spots , but now is cleaner and better.
@winxclub-joy: I have a small chest, too
Furtermore , I will put braces on my teeth !

That´s all ! Oh.. and I have brown hair, brown eyes , red lips , small nose...(things I like)

Posted by: dittadulla Jan 13 2009, 8:22 PM

Well... I just feel so nice the way I am... although I eat a little too much candy, my weight never really goes up. So I just keep staying slim xD and my height is great, 1,63 meters^^. I have like a tiny more than average big chest and thick and red hair in a pretty length. ^^.

On the other hand, I have a bad habit of pinching two tiny pimples in my face so it always turns deep red again =S but I can't find anything more wrong with myself... that I'm inhappy with that is...

Posted by: musaenchantixthebest Jan 13 2009, 9:48 PM

well my imperfection is i guess is my two crooked finger (they got that way because of an accident)
i'm rather skinny for girls my age, i'm not over-weight but actually under weight. i lose a lot of pound during my surgeries. i'm trying to recover my weight.
my grandma also says i have a horrible sickly looking color tone. i'm pale for my type, but its because i hate the sun. i can't stand it, i just can't see in the sunlight. but my friends i'm ok.
but i'm really short for my age, even for a mexican. everyone thinks i'm a freshman, which is really annoying. but its also cause i don't wear makeup. i don't know why i don't like it, i want to wear it sometime but then i don't. can y'all help me with that. do you think makeup is ok for me to wear. i'm 17 years old, a junior in high school.

Posted by: Boo Jan 13 2009, 10:10 PM

I like to always think positive and not dwell on the negatives, so sharing imperfections is just diving into a subject I'd rather forget about, but, I see how it could be a positive thing too; confronting your imperfections instead of ignoring them... so I may share.

My problem is, I'm 16 and am quite underweight (not going to be specific, but it's under 100 pounds.) But the fact of the matter is, I don't feel that thin. In fact, I look at myself and constantly think I'm fat, that I have a gut and such. I've been told by peers, friends, and family that I look thin, but I can't bring myself to believe them. I'm quite self conscious, you see.

(you can all just ignore the previous paragraph if you may. Just wanted to get that off of my chest.)

I wouldn't see being flat-chested as being a bad thing, in fact, it's probably better that way, since you won't receive unwanted attention as other girls may face as a teen (or older).

Fingernail biting... just wear a really nasty tasting nail polish: it works.

And braces: they hurt, and they aren't the prettiest things, but just think of the benefits instead of the drawbacks. Also, consider yourself lucky, as braces these days are quite expensive (dental care in general costs way too much).

Posted by: musaenchantixthebest Jan 13 2009, 10:26 PM

i agree with the flat-chested part. its not a bad thing, i rather have it the way i am. i don't want them any bigger. plus the pain....
don't worry that your flat-chested. they will grow at their pace. sound weird to say that but its true.

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 13 2009, 11:26 PM

Well, when I laugh or smile, I look seriously retarded. So looks like we're from the same society xP

I don't have problem with my height, since I'm taller than dear Strafi. But then I demand for more, maybe because in the past I used to be a shortie and the fear of being shorter than anyone else.

The chest part, I don't really mind as long as it grew a tiny bit, only a bit. I'm not asking for papaya size, *dangs*

blackheads, arrhx. I hate them, I've tried various of products to get rid of them, eve with doctor's advice but none of them work. Pimples, yeah =)

I don't have fingernails problems, even though I like to bit them, maybe that's the cause of natural xD

Big face, I'll be trying Bio-essence slimming cream if I can.

but, the part which I like to complain the most is my nose. Everyone in my father's bloodline family has big nose, and I'm the unlucky one. I just hate my nose, I remembered once that I got compared to Jackie Chan, I just hate it.

I was thinking of going nose surgery after 21, if I'm able to afford it. Nose, I HATE YOU! arrhx >.<

Posted by: AnnieBelle Jan 13 2009, 11:38 PM

Okay, let's see if the girl with a good self-image about herself can find something she doesn't like.

My teeth, I don't like those. {I have a horrendous overbite--dentist quit on trying to fix that...and I have an extra tooth somewhere above one of my front teeth.}

And maybe my weight...I'm...eh...160 pounds...or 72 kg(ish)...and while I'm tall for my age, that's still...overweight.
As in, there's a BMI portion of our semester-ly fitness tests in PE, I've never not failed one.

*Will not complain about her ...ahem...chest size, as it seems she's on the opposite end of the scale from some of the other girls on here...*

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 14 2009, 2:17 PM

o.o

I just hate my nose, which is the part I dislike the most. Being a big nose society sucks =.="

Posted by: Zhanneel Jan 14 2009, 3:22 PM

Rofl, so a lot of us have stupid smiles. Good, I feel much better now ^^.

And sorry about the chest thing Annie. I suffer from your problem too. Not fun, especially when the extra weight gives me a back ache.

Anyone who is trying to lose weight: I would say it's a good goal (as long as you don't already fall under your weight limit for your age/height/body type), but if you do it make sure you do it in a healthy way--exercise combined with good eating habits (not no eating habit). It does work too, that's how I dropped a lot of weight.

Aww, just saw Joy's post. My nose isn't exactly cute and button-like either, but maybe you'll like it one day? I'm starting to think my nose makes my face unique, and I kind of think it makes me stand out in a good way.

Karime: do you personally not like makeup? (I can see why if you do. I hate it, yet I wear it because it's a social norm in the United States *gag*).

Posted by: Jahnavi Jan 14 2009, 3:25 PM

Beat this!
After I got my braces off, my parents and family kept saying, "Oh wow, you've got such a nice smile now! You should smile more!" And I don't know whether I listened to their advice, or just began to do this naturally, lol, but whenever I laughed or grinned, I had this huge toothy smile... And my friends teased me about it! (@ Zhanneel: Remember the Orbit Gum commercial picture on Facebook?)
So now, I smile with my mouth shut. Not because of bad teeth, but because it's so annoying (and sometimes quite hurtful) when people laugh me if I smile with my mouth open! (Once, one of my "friends" told me, "Seriously, shut your mouth when you smile, I'm going to have nightmares." I laughed when he said that, but he just repeated it. He wasn't kidding.)

Posted by: Zhanneel Jan 14 2009, 4:00 PM

Wow, never known anyone to have the polar opposite problem of wanting a nice smile. I think you just need practice, lol. My sister is actually getting braces right now too (and she's like 25 xP) so I'm guessing I'll have to help coach her on how big of a smile to do, otherwise she might overdo it too. (And yes, you did remind me of the Orbit gum commercials ^^).

My closed mouth smile is not what I'd prefer, but then again I'd rather not show my teeth until maybe one day I can afford the dental procedure. I don't mind keeping my mouth closed, but my smile isn't exactly "vivid" then. My relatives think I don't have fun because I never smile and whenever I take pictures they complain because I look like I'm frowning. But I really am trying to smile! =p

Posted by: dittadulla Jan 14 2009, 7:02 PM

Ooh, me has too much self-confident to put anything on mah beautiful smile~

[/brag]

Anyway, I have a pretty nice smile, even showing my teeth. And even though I have braces in lower teeth... but no one notices them when I smile, it just covers down xD Ooh, like many weeks after the school started again {braces = before school started again, after school ended the year before} or actually many many weeks after it started this year, a boy in my class {and this is a small class, everyone notices everyone} just noticed that I had braces. Just noticed, I repeat.

I forgot! :

I have really pale skin, really pale. And there is a tiny red spot under my eye that has been there for like forever and ever. My facial hair is also white. So if I'd want people to actually see my eye lashes, I'd have to wear mascara always. >.<.

And annoying: When in alot of sun, I have to put on alot of sun protection so that I won't burn. It's really annoying because my cousins are y'know using a low protection and they tan like crazy xD but I don't tan. Like many of you perhaps though.

Posted by: humbu111 Jan 14 2009, 8:59 PM

Lol Ditty had facial hair XD Just joking, I know what you mean...

Posted by: dittadulla Jan 14 2009, 10:06 PM

I mean eye-lashers, eyebrows, etc. xD

Posted by: humbu111 Jan 14 2009, 10:08 PM

Lol yeah I understood that later, but my first thought was like a beard or something

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 14 2009, 11:35 PM

teehee, I will afford for face trimmming. women looks bad with hair on face isn't it?

Posted by: terriordx32 Jan 14 2009, 11:56 PM

imperfections?

hmm... im a guy but my nipples are uneven, which i think is wierd
i dont like the small hump on my nose, and my small little gut
which will be gone in a month, just in time for spring break

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 15 2009, 12:45 PM

o.0

Inow all I wish is to remove blackheads, that's it.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Jan 16 2009, 3:46 AM

Lol, I hate the fact I'm 5'2, I wish I was 5'6 so badly. My weight's not that bad, I'm at an okay weight, 105lbs, I personally feel I could do better though & for pimples its generally mild.

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 17 2009, 1:50 AM

wow.....

anyone from big nose society here? xD I'm part of the society you know =.="

*hate my nose*

Posted by: Bloom girl Jan 17 2009, 2:54 PM

I don´t have to wear mascara ~fortunately~ ,because my eye-lashers are long and very black ... many girls think that I wear mascara !Also I don´t wear make-up ~I´m very young for that~ I only wear lip-gloss when I go out.

Posted by: Boo Jan 17 2009, 11:26 PM

Ha ha, you're lucky. I have really light eyelashes so I wear mascara every day, (and won't go out of the house without it).

I'm with you Joy. I absolutely hate my nose. I think it looks too big for my face and makes my profile look just horrendous. I would never get surgery though: too expensive and not worth the risk. Plus, I'm highly sensitive and extremely squeamish.

I'm not one to wish to be different, but if I could, I would definitely make myself thinner, my nose smaller, and my hair naturally straight (I hate having curly hair. Straightening it in the morning every day is such a bother.)

Posted by: humbu111 Jan 17 2009, 11:37 PM

Lol a girl from one of my classes asked me if I was wearing mascara a few weeks ago XD (I wasnt, btw -_-)

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 18 2009, 5:28 AM

o.O

I got a dude wearing eyeliner everday in school, then he told me that malays boys kinda do that =P

Im not criticising him that he's a what, it's just some custom I think. And he got a girlfriend anyway =D

am I changing the subject?

Posted by: mightymarty2 Jan 18 2009, 9:42 PM

i know a guy who did once

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 18 2009, 11:27 PM

0.o

Posted by: bloom_daphne Jan 23 2009, 11:53 PM

Hehe, there's a boy in my school, who spends more time on his hair than girls! He even has a portable straightener! I have one in my locker but hardly use it.

Make-Up, I'm all natural, never wear anything like that, the only cosmetics/etc, I wear is Chevrefeuille by Yves Rocher, its a perfume. I like citrus stuff, I really hate it when girls at school use an entire bottle of perfume to cover up their nasty gym odour, yuck.

Posted by: winxtecna Jan 24 2009, 3:46 AM

I wish I could ware makeup, but I have very sensitive skin so I can't. I hate that, because I have a blackhead and pimple problem. I have never put on mascara, I should try it sometime.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Jan 24 2009, 6:05 PM

I totally agree, whenever I even try something to clear my face, I'll get some stupid allergy, and get a rash all over my face, so thats why i dont bother with makeup.

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 27 2009, 2:22 PM

I have blackhead and pimple problems too =(

But I still put makeup for occasions..... =P

lol

Posted by: Bloom girl Jan 29 2009, 5:51 PM

XD
Everyone is different.
I think that I am a very usual girl ; brown hair, brown eyes... Most of the girls in the world have brown hair.
I wish I would have blonde or red hair !

Posted by: Zhanneel Jan 30 2009, 5:44 AM

Would it be weird to say I always wished I had either vivid green or white hair? lol

Posted by: Bloom girl Jan 30 2009, 12:24 PM

XD !!!

Posted by: P-girl Jan 30 2009, 12:33 PM

Not at all, I still want pink as a natural color. (I wonder how far genetic engineering can go.....)

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jan 30 2009, 12:46 PM

pink, yeah xD

Posted by: Zhanneel Jan 31 2009, 5:04 PM

I'd take pink, especially if I could get it to look like Tecna's short hair style =).

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 1 2009, 12:26 AM

Lol, awesome, I always wanted pink hair, you can get the colour/bleach set from sally's beauty supplies for $13, pretty cheap, works great too!

I don't wear make-up so I can get child tickets for the bus, movies and other child deals. Muahahah.

BTW DOES APPLE CIDER VINEGAR WORK?
SORRY FOR ALL CAPS

Posted by: winxclub-joy Feb 1 2009, 12:47 PM

I have brown eyes(So-called dark hazel eyes cuz it's kinda lighter than normal dark brown), brown hair, hidden blonde.

Kinda wish to have pink hair too, since it's my fave color lolz.

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 1 2009, 7:12 PM

lolz@Daphne

I know what you mean about looking young. With my face and my shortness I *think* I could get away with buying kids version of things, but then there are other things that might be noticed. I could wear lots of sweaters xP.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 2 2009, 1:05 AM

Lawl yeah. (: But I've been getting taller lately.
There was this gangsta teenager on the bus who put in 50 cents for a bus ride and the bus driver yelled at him so bad.

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 3 2009, 1:25 AM

lolz, take that gansta boy! (or maybe girl)

Posted by: winxclub-joy Feb 3 2009, 11:11 AM

lol

Posted by: Bloom girl Feb 3 2009, 8:34 PM

My favourite colour is pink, too.
But I don´t like pink hair.

Posted by: Boo Feb 7 2009, 5:05 AM

I don't think I'd ever completely dye my hair... I've gotten highlights, but that's as far as it goes when it comes to me and hair dye. (Even if I don't like my hair color).

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 7 2009, 5:08 AM

*nod* I too am afraid of dyeing my hair. I think it's probably like a Pringle, "once you pop you just can't stop." That and I'm afraid of the damage the dye will do to my hair. Looks like it's staying dirty blond for a good long while.

Posted by: Boo Feb 7 2009, 3:13 PM

Ha ha, me too (staying dirty blond). Even my highlights were subtle (a light blonde that mixed well.... almost not noticeable.) I don't think I need to dye my hair a totally different color to be noticed (and dying your hair also comes with the possibility that you may hate it even more then your color before, and if that happens, you're out of luck...)

Plus, like you said, the damage it would cause... though in my case, it's not so much about that since I damage my hair daily with the straightener.

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 7 2009, 3:26 PM

And I damage mine with the blow dryer. Ugh.

I like what you said here:

In high school I remember changing myself all the time since I had no idea where I fit in. Then my senior year I realized something and gave up on the whole "fitting in" ordeal. Instead of dressing to show myself off or give myself attention, I started wearing really normal preppy-like clothes. That's my style now. I'm sure fashionistas would call it boring or uncreative, but why should I care about my outside appearance so much when it's my talking and personality I want to show? Hehe, that and I have no money for certain clothing styles. =D But I think I prefer it this way too.

Posted by: Boo Feb 7 2009, 3:44 PM

Ha ha, I forgot that: I use the blow drier too. >_<

That's good that you're confident with yourself now. ^_^ I always like to think that high school is a time to really find out what kind of a person you are or are going to be (either then, or college). But only being a sophomore, I wouldn't really know. (dang, if only I had more wisdom.) Chalk that one up as another imperfection.

I've already given up on fitting in with the 'popular' crowd here. They're not worth it: they're too close-minded and untrustworthy for my attention, if you ask me. It's a pity that they don't see anything beyond their own personal worlds, so to speak. Sure, I suppose you could say I hang out with the geeky guys who don't exactly fit into their respective classes, but it's a heck of a lot more fun then getting rumors spread about me every other day like some do in the cliques.

As for what I wear; I stay far, far, far away from brand clothing (Abercrombie, etc.) I don't want to be a walking billboard, I want to be unique. ^_^

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 7 2009, 7:33 PM

Yay! No walking billboards! Well, if some people like that it's okay. So long as they don't lose their personality and unique traits by fitting in with the popular people. And I agree, hang out with the fun people and just stay out the way of those who like to spread rumors and high school gets a lot easier. I think I kept under the radar as much as I could. Also being a band geek helped me built immunity to teasing. Four years after marching band and I really didn't care what anyone said about me after a while, lol.

Posted by: Boo Feb 7 2009, 9:50 PM

Aww, that's not the greatest that you had to grow accustomed to it though. At least you learned not to let it hurt you, though. I know if someone attacked me with teasing words, I definitely wouldn't show it, but I would feel a tad upset within myself. I'm too sensitive.

Yay for not falling to conformity! I totally agree. I think the main reason those clothes are popular is because of the fact that to be 'popular' or in a clique, you have to have them. I mean, I'd give respect to those who like the clothes and don't wear them simply to get into the "popular" crowd, like you said... I personally just don't like the fact that it's basically advertising for a company to have an enormous brand across your clothes. They should be paying those who buy the clothes to wear them, not the other way around.

Chalk up another two imperfections for me: Too sensitive, too opinionated at times when no one wants to listen.

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 8 2009, 4:38 AM

*borrows Boo's imperfections*

While I'm working on the opinionated part very well now, the sensitive part of me doesn't seem to be fixable. (And don't worry Boo, there's plenty of people on here who will listen ^^. MC is great like that.)

Being paid to wear a brand-labeled logo shirt. Genius!

Posted by: mightymarty2 Feb 8 2009, 12:09 PM

I know I can at times be too sensative

Posted by: Boo Feb 14 2009, 4:57 PM

I used to do that as well (become addicted to things easily.) I had obsessive phases as a child (one year I liked one thing, the next it was another).

Aww, don't worry about it Marty. You're not alone.

Thanks, Zhanneel. I just don't like discussing my personal problems with anyone, really. I tend to doubt that anyone would care.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 14 2009, 7:42 PM

The popular kids are kinda nice to me, we were friends at the beginning of the year, but it was boring when we hung out. I still occasionally talk to them and we're on good terms. I just dislike the fact that there's inside jokes and sometimes Im totally lost in a conversation.

Posted by: fullmoon Feb 14 2009, 9:49 PM

My imperfections? ...I have some freckles while I'm asian. I have lots of scars everywhere because I scar easily. I have this loong scar on my arm which was a scratch from a bush (I know it is a lame way to get one). There is this white bump on my gum on top of my right canine tooth. I hope it isn't another tooth or I have to go get braces. I have this weird accent thing and my conversation skills aren't that great since I tend to mumble and stutter.

Posted by: wkw427 Feb 15 2009, 12:43 AM

I have a huge mole on my neck that has very long hair growing out.

And I'm starting to get face hair.
I'm afraid of face hair.
I don't want face hair
At
All



Oh, and in the palm of both my hands I have a huge unsightly callus from making tight fists due to a nervous habit. Speeking of habits, I bite my nails :\

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 15 2009, 2:29 AM

To be honest I really want braces on my top teeth, but my dentist said only one tooth was crooked and that I should "push" my tooth everyday. Whats up with that?! & for speaking, there's a rasp in my voice sometimes. ):

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 15 2009, 3:18 AM

Rofl@facial hair. Sorry for finding that amusing...but why do you not want facial hair WK? (I mean, I'm sure there are a lot of reasons such as it's itchy when it grows in, it's a hassle to keep nice-looking, etc...)

Braces would be nice too. Just can't afford them.

Posted by: wkw427 Feb 15 2009, 5:19 PM

I got braces, too. And they are getting taken off on the 10th. YAY!!!

Face hair to me just seems dirty

Posted by: Boo Feb 15 2009, 6:39 PM

My evil orthodontist is not telling me when I can get my braces off... grrr... They're not fun... really.

I sometimes speak with a slight monotone when I'm nervous or intimidated... (that and quietly.) :/ I do that often too: since I can get so nervous around people I'm unfamiliar with (or people I'm intimidated by, as said earlier. For example: my co-workers and my boss... even though they're all awfully nice.)

Yet another imperfection I found talking about one imperfection: nervousness.

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 15 2009, 6:39 PM

Congrats on loosing those braces soon wk! And gotcha, on the face hair thing. I've seen it both ways: totally shaggy and unkempt. And then the reverse, where it's neatly groomed and gives the added bonus of making you appear older and stylish, lol. But that is probably a pain in the butt to upkeep. Kind of like how I chose a hairstyle that is maintenance-free because I hate primping and I can't stand anything that takes more than 5-10 minutes to get ready.

Aww, I hope you can overcome your nervousness too Boo. I'm glad your co-workers are good about it too ^^. (I will say that working as a clerk for several years now pretty much squashed most of my nervous nature. Not all...but when you are helping so many people a day you just learn to forget about it.)

Posted by: wkw427 Feb 15 2009, 10:38 PM

There is no set time to take them off. I was supposed to get mine off last September, but my teeth were stubborn (and I got pleasure bending the wires with pen caps) which pushed it back. The next date was sometime in December, and now it is March 10

Posted by: Boo Feb 16 2009, 3:15 PM

That probably would rid of nervousness! I don't think I could ever take a job like that. Thanks, I think I've made a slight improvement over the years (my co-workers have told me that I've come out of my shell a lot more), but I still get awfully tense around certain people.

I'm aware that it depends and an exact date is improbable, but I think what irks me is the fact that they're not even giving me an estimation (like, am I going to get them off soon, as in, 2 months or so, or later?).

Eesh! That's a bummer. Well, at least you're getting them off soon!

Posted by: mightymarty2 Feb 16 2009, 5:49 PM

I hate being nervous that is something i get a lot along with stress,

Posted by: wkw427 Feb 16 2009, 11:05 PM

Sometimes I am so stressed from school I can sleep for a few days, only waking up to eat and use the bathroom.

My record is about 30 hours. Whenever I was awake I had a banging headach. So I slept, didn't wake up fo like 15 hours. I got some food, went back to sleep..

Felt like rubbage when I finally woke up, but was fun

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 17 2009, 12:21 AM

how long do people generally keep braces on?
Im going to ask my dentist, because I hate that one slightly crooked tooth. Or is there anything besides braces to straighten one tooth?

Posted by: Jahnavi Feb 17 2009, 10:51 AM

I had mine on for about a year.

Posted by: dittadulla Feb 17 2009, 2:35 PM

Actually, there is a way to straighten one tooth. My dentist gave me something for that. I don't know what to call it in english though. You can ask your dentist about it.

Or that is if you need more room for one certain tooth, otherwise I don't know ^^.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 17 2009, 10:22 PM

Really? What's it called? If you don't know, could you describe it?

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 18 2009, 12:03 AM

Oh, why is surgery scary? They use anesthesia right?

Posted by: Another Morning Feb 18 2009, 12:37 AM

A little late, but here I go.

Might as well put it out there, most of my self-esteem issues come from my weight. I'm...large. Which is really annoying because it means all the styles of clothing that I like the most look WRETCHED on me .___.

It seems like there's quite a few people who are like me in that I I think my nose is too large and I hate my smile. .___. My skin is alright for the most part, but it does get pretty dry and I do get the occational blackheads. I'm missing one of my adult teeth right up in the front, so unless I'm wearing my retainer, I have a giant gap in my teeth when I smile x___x And I'm not crazy about my retainer, either. But I am grateful that I got braces to correct a large overbit and gap between my front two teeth.

My hair has an interesting texture, but it's really dry and frizzy, so that's always annoying. The color is alright, but I like to dye it anyway :/ My scalp is pretty dry.

I sort of inherited my dad's bad breath gene XD; Even if I brush my teeth and gargle like crazy and carry mints around, it still doesn't help all the time.

I think that's enough for now >_>; As for what I like, I actually like my glasses. My eyes are sort of a pretty color, and I think that I could be fairly pretty if I put more effort into my appearance. Not like, you know, inch-thick makeup and two cans of hairspray per day. But like, if I took more diligent care of my skin and worked on loosing weight.

As for chewing fingernails, I did it all the time until I got braces, and then it was too much of a pain to chew around them XD So uh...I know that isn't a very practical solution. I've heard bitter nail polishes help.

Posted by: SuperChick Feb 18 2009, 2:04 AM

I have braces they arn't fun I also don't really prefer having freakles and sometimes i don't like having red hair
ONLY RED HAIR GIRL IN GRADE I DON"T NO ABOUT SCHOOL

Posted by: Boo Feb 18 2009, 2:43 AM

Aw, Don't blame yourself with the clothes; personally, I wouldn't suggest beating yourself up over something that is of no fault of yours. I think it's unreasonable for clothes companies to believe that all young girls are paper thin... it's pitiful, really. We come in all shapes and sizes, so for them to believe that making clothes that only fit itty bitty girls is reasonable is just insane.

I'm sorry about your lack of self-esteem... I wish it was better for you. A lot of us probably have felt or are feeling the same way (well, look at us, we're all on here beating ourselves up over our imperfections.) You're definitely not alone and we'll always listen. ^_^

I wish I had a fondness for my glasses! I *cough* lost *cough* mine.

I know what you mean by braces and fingernails. And all this time I was wondering how in the world I managed to keep these long fingernails without really consciously knowing that these braces actually do prevent me from biting them most of the time.


*shudders* Ooohh... needles... *shudders*

Posted by: winxtecna Feb 18 2009, 2:44 AM

Same here! They really scare me. So I see why you decided to not have the surgery. There was one kid at my school that said he had surgery on his teeth and they used anesthesia, to make him sleep during the surgery, and during the middle of the surgery he woke up!!! He said after he woke up and saw what was happening, he passed out!! That would be very scary. I NEVER want that to happen to me!!

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 18 2009, 3:14 AM

Woot! Go AM! That was quite the guts to write so much about your dislikes (and I'm glad you wrote what your likes are too ^^). I have a problem with clothing too. I'm too freaking short. I buy my work pants from Kohls, and they have three lengths: tall, regular, and short. I buy the short size...and they're still about 2 inches too long. x_x So I'd have to agree with Boo. The clothing companies really suck at fitting girls of all sizes and shapes.

Posted by: winxclub-joy Feb 18 2009, 3:12 PM

I have one slightly crooked tooth which aren't obvious. So I do not need these braces, that is what my dentist said.

But I do have yellow teeth, time to get some teeth whitening toothbrush!

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 18 2009, 10:20 PM

Awh, most of the time we end up criticizing ourselves more than others would, just act confident. If you act insecure others will sense it, trust me, no one dares insults me because I'll beat them at their own sick game.

If you want to lose weight, do it only to be healthier. I personally want to be 95 pounds.

Posted by: Another Morning Feb 19 2009, 1:22 AM

I'm not really afraid of needles. They kind of fascinate me. >.> When I'm getting a shot or getting blood drawn, I always watch them do it. Once, the nurse could tell I was so interested, she let me draw my own blood XD

But yeah, braces pretty much stopped my nail-biting, even though they're off now XD Because now I don't like my nails to be all ragged because they get snagged on things :P

Also, I've always been pretty happy with my heigh. I'm sort of tall, around 5'9", so that hasn't been much of a problem for me, at least XD

As for clothing sizes, it is really annoying to find things that fit right e___e All the jeans I find that are long enough, I have to make sure I wear a belt so they don't fall off, but the ones that are the right length are too short x___x And finding shirts is quite the adventure, too e___e Luckily, my mom is really good at sewing, so she's started making nifty shirts and stuff for me ^^

And thanks for the support, guys <3

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 19 2009, 3:31 AM

Haha, same here, Im not afraid of needles, other people were so scared when we were getting our shots but I was probably the most sane person there.

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 19 2009, 5:37 AM

I don't fear shots anymore (just got a flu shot last winter), but I do not like blood....

In fact, I touched and looked over cadavers many times and not been queasy once. In fact, I rather think it's exciting to look over dead bodies (for science of course ^^). But blood, large amounts of it (not like a papercut) freaks me out.

Posted by: winxclub-joy Feb 19 2009, 3:17 PM

I only few shots ever in my life.

And this time, I do not know the feeling of needle inside my body?

I need to lose my tummy, I just hate it. I can't wear tight outfits while hanging out, I hate it! >.<

I'm like Stella, style is always style! (Am I correct? lol)

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 19 2009, 11:59 PM

All I eat is salads, apples, milk and a muffin.

Posted by: fullmoon Feb 20 2009, 11:57 PM

Needles....I don't really remember how a shot feels like and I don't recall getting them that many times so I am not really afraid of them. I'm 5'7 but I want to be shorter....I feel like a giant standing beside some of my friends. Blood can sometimes scare me and sometimes not.....it matters when I see it. When I was small, was afraid of horror movies of just the sight of violence. I hated crickets and grasshoppers which I still do. But then again, I don't really like any insect except ladybugs or butterflies.

My problem is getting a figure. I have no hips whatsoever.

Posted by: fullmoon Feb 21 2009, 4:26 AM

I still am. I can handle stuff like Jurassic Park though. I sometimes tell myself to go watch a horror movie for once but I'm too scared to actually do it. =.= I'm a coward. I'm fine if it is an animated thing or cartoons though.

After watching this movie with giant insects...I've been a bit creeped out. There was a giant scorpion and a hairy spider as big a head. It was actually a science movie that we were watching for school.

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 21 2009, 4:51 AM

I can handle almost all insects...except CENTIPEDES!

Posted by: Another Morning Feb 21 2009, 6:21 AM

I'm not a big fan of horror movies :/ The only one I ever saw and enjoyed, I only liked because I had fun watching my friend accidentally throw popcorn all over themselves/each other/the people behind us.

And I'm not "afraid" of bugs or spiders per se, but I don't really like them. But spiders must die on sight. It is law.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 21 2009, 5:35 PM

I can't stand insects whatsoever!
Gosh Breana, you're so ungrateful, I'd love to be 5'7! However I haven't ever got any growth spurts yet so my height hasn't changed yet. ):

Posted by: Boo Feb 21 2009, 6:31 PM

Ooh... I am terrified of any movies that include blood. I am actually debating whether or not to see Slumdog Millionaire because of the R rating... (the rating standing as it is because of the fact that it includes some violence.) I am highly squeamish, as I may have mentioned. I turn pale and get terribly dizzy at the mere sight of blood (real or fake). Haven't fainted yet, luckily.

Being 5'7 isn't bad! I know many people who would just love to be at least that height.

Eeew... insects. I can tolerate some, but most of them creep me out for no valid reason at all.

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 21 2009, 6:46 PM

I don't want to push you into it Boo, but Slumdog Millionaire was an exceptional movie. One of the best I've seen in years. It's very sad through the majority of the movie and teaches you a lot, but the ending is well worth it. You can't help but scream "YEEEEESSS!" Anyway, I loved it ^^. They don't show too much in the way of actual blood, but the film is still hard to take in simply because the characters go through so much.

Posted by: Boo Feb 21 2009, 8:04 PM

Thanks for the reassurance. ^_^ I have heard it was really good, though depressing in several ways... That's relieving that they don't show too much blood: that would be my main concern. I would hate to get sick on my friend... that wouldn't be a very "fun" time. :/ I think I may see it... now let's see if I can convince the employee behind the counter that I'm 17. Last time, lying didn't work too well for me.

Posted by: Another Morning Feb 21 2009, 10:04 PM

I actually handle gore pretty well. o.o Even real stuff doesn't bother me too much.

Also, I think 5'7" is a wonderful height =D

Posted by: fullmoon Feb 22 2009, 3:11 AM

I'm a very "ungrateful" person I guess. I think it is because I'm taller than all my close friends who are around 5'4. I'm glad I'm not 6'0.

I can handle gore as long it not real life. I'm fine when see blood for the most part. My problem is that I get to much into movies. The weird thing is that I'm interested in seeing medical procedures done and surgery.

Posted by: Crystal_Girl Feb 22 2009, 10:23 AM

Gore? Heh, who doesn't have it. Lol. I handle it well, I guess. XD

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 22 2009, 7:07 PM

Cannot under any circumstances watch surgeries. That and live births. Noo...no thank you.

Posted by: Another Morning Feb 22 2009, 7:11 PM

I've seen some surgeries on TV and in person. I was too interested in what was going on to be grossed out XD

Posted by: Boo Feb 23 2009, 2:27 AM

*shudders* Surgeries... *shudders* I can't stand seeing anything having to do with surgeries... No joke: I watched 5 minutes of ER and had to run out of the room in a hurry to prevent myself from getting sick, if you know what I mean.
Oh dear, I am a wimp. Yet another imperfection.

Posted by: mightymarty2 Feb 23 2009, 7:32 PM

Boo that don't make you a wimp, stopping yourself being sick does not make you a wimp

Posted by: bloom_daphne Feb 24 2009, 1:09 AM

You're scared of blood? I've seen medical textbooks that show these gross warts and skin conditions. I've gotten over it but it was gross at first.



There was a girl @ my old school who was 7 feet!



Try watching live surgeries with my sister! When were watching plastic surgery, during the liposuction procedure, my sister kept making comparisons between the fat and scrambled eggs.



ER isn't that scary, but you're not a wimp.

Posted by: sweetmusa Feb 24 2009, 1:33 AM

my only imperfection is my face;its two toned ,it has blemishes,and i only have to wear glasses during school because i can't see on the board and i'm cross eyed(that means sometimes i see two things when there is only one
and sometimes my eyes go to the sides like (one eye goes to the side and the other goes the opposite way)yeah really freaky but it doesn't happen much only when i stare.i know it sounds weird but i actually don't look bad i would have uploaded a picture if my scanner was working.

of yeah and i need braces

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 24 2009, 4:15 AM

Lolz, the funny thing is the human body doesn't gross me out one bit. In fact the cadaver (dead body used for science) I got to study for a semester of anatomy was awesome and interesting. However...blood is another thing. Still freaks me out. I think it has something more to do with the correlation to life and death and how if I see it I start to imagine bleeding to death. Or something silly like that xP.

Posted by: sweetmusa Feb 24 2009, 1:43 PM

"shudders"

Posted by: Zhanneel Feb 25 2009, 4:53 AM

Awww! I'm sorry AD. Especially for realistic (and historic) movies, it can be too much.

For the horror movies (like SAW or other bloody movies), I tend to laugh at those because I know the stage crew is probably splashing red gook on everyone, and that just seems kind of funny =p. Maybe thinking about that will help you. =(

Posted by: winxclub-joy Feb 27 2009, 3:20 PM

speaking of SAW, when I watched it yesterday with my friend, I kinda freak out and gave a disgusted look. Firstly is because I kinda do have a fear of seeing internal organs etc, and secondly I seriously dislike horror movie. Maybe because firstly when I think it's fake I begin to dislike it. Secondly it's like I'm in a course of somewhat familiar to film production and I knew how horror movie are filmed. So yeah, besides fearing the internal organs, nothing freaks me out. So yeah......

Posted by: fullmoon Feb 28 2009, 7:19 AM

Really? What occurs to me first is that it is so sad that those things exist before I get grossed out. One time I was watching a discovery channel about a person who had these warts that were bark and roots. He looked like he was half tree. It was sad. >< I believe that he had those warts because of the lack or white blood cells.

When I see people with conditions like his, it wants me to be in the medical field and help people.

What I don't like seeing is a live fish or animal being eaten by another fisih or animal. Scenes where predators are stalking their prey can already make me want to plug by ears. It is the circle of life, but I just find it too sad. I can stand watching it, but I rather not.

Posted by: dittadulla Feb 28 2009, 12:00 PM

I can't stand blood *shudders*

But other than that, the human body doesn't disguss me. Just the blood.

Posted by: winxclub-joy Mar 1 2009, 6:52 AM

eek, but if they're from the horrors film it should be okay, but if it happens in reality, I'll be *faint*

Posted by: humbu111 Mar 1 2009, 8:57 PM

[noguests]Thats one of the reasons I seriously hate biology, its too disgusting. [/noguests]

Posted by: Boo Mar 1 2009, 9:51 PM

Ooh... don't remind me. I had to dissect a frog last year, but let my partner do it. Not only was it terribly disgusting and made me feel sick, but I felt terribly sorry for the frog. Those poor things were killed to be dissected when we could have just went on the internet and did an online dissection (with a computer-generated image of a frog). It bothers me that animals had to be killed for no good reason at all. Call me crazy, but I wanted to cry.

Ha ha, chalk that up for another imperfection: Over-sensitive and too opinionated when it comes to subjects such as hunting (but that can be put under the 'too opinionated column in general).

I cannot believe people can even watch SAW movies... Even the ads and DVD covers look gruesome. In my opinion, those kind of movies are desensitizing our youth to an unhealthy degree.

Posted by: humbu111 Mar 1 2009, 10:03 PM

[noguests]

If I ever had to do that I would just flat out refuse. I'm a vegetarian, so I could say its against my religion (which I guess is pretty much true... there isnt much difference between killing animals to eat or to learn, both are unnecessary and have harmless alternatives.) But happily, I'm not gonna have to, since I wont take grade 11 and 12 bilogy! [/noguests]

[noguests] [/noguests]

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 2 2009, 4:13 AM

The worst things I had to dissect was a fetal pig and a cow's heart...eeks. I will say it was an experience.

What I worry about is whether those animals that "donate" their parts (like the cow) are also used for other things, or if a lot of the creature goes to waste. (More so I hate the method in which we obtain our meat. Not humane.) I know this is gruesome for some (especially for vegetarians), so I won't say too much, but if you're going to use parts of an animal, be respectful of the creature and use as much of the animal as you can. Like animals do in the wild: don't waste anything. That's why I respect hunter and gatherer groups, or nomads like the Eskimos. They don't just kill for a few parts of the animal. They use up nearly every part, and then I know they appreciate life other than their own.

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 2 2009, 4:19 AM

I had to disect a fetal pig in 9th grade biology. The smell and the brain were really the only things that got to me.

One of the many reasons I dropped Anatomy earlier this year, though, is because at some point they're going to be disecting cats >_> I can't do that.

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 2 2009, 4:40 AM

I don't think I'd want to see the cats either. Pigs are one thing, they are a tad more simple and well...sad truth is we already have a lot in livestock at the moment. But cats? They'd have to have a cat farm to harvest them for dissecting. That's going farther than I expect.

My favorite is still the human corpse. I really liked looking at it, except for the smell (yeah, totally agree on that). I think I may donate my body to science too one day. But then I also like the idea of cremation and going back into the land too. I really hope I didn't freak anyone out with talk about death >_<.

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 2 2009, 5:02 AM

The teacher told us how they got them, but I don't remember. It wasn't a harvesting farm, though. I think it was from vet offices, or something.

As for more death, there's actually a company that will take a small amount of cremated remains and actually make jewels out of them o.o

Posted by: Tom273 Mar 2 2009, 12:40 PM

lol i hate bugs i go crazy when i see bees or mosquitos, grrr i cant stand them at all, if i have a mosquito in my room i have to kill it or else i cannot sleep. Bugs are really annoying XD and the weirdest thing ever is *i like spiders* lol and when there's a bee somewhere you won't see me there XD

Posted by: Boo Mar 2 2009, 11:12 PM

*shudders* *shudders again*
Gosh, I would not be able to handle anything like that... at all. I would, A, feel bad for the person and would constantly think of what their family must think of their decision, and B, probably faint (99.9% sure if I ever even saw a corpse, I would pass out.)

I also like the idea of cremation. What I plan to do is give someone a grand trip around the world to scatter my ashes on the places I loved so a part of me would always exist there. Not to mention, the person would get to see places they might not have seen before because of me. But, I don't plan to have that happen for many, many, many, many years. (Although, that close-call with my car really got me going today, but nobody would really want to hear about that.) :/

Possibly ending that discussion???

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 3 2009, 2:46 AM

Ooo, I like the idea of having someone travel with my um...well, you know. Lol, surprisingly I don't mind conversations like this but I'm not sure about others. So I'll stop there too =p.

Posted by: fullmoon Mar 3 2009, 3:39 AM

Awww...ending the discussion already? One last thing for me to say then. If you wish for your body to be dissected and for people to look at your bare body and slowly studying it, sure, go donate it to the hospital. I am to self-concious about my body to do that though.

I don't want to be burned up. I think being buried is the best way for me in the end.

One of my imperfections is my clumsiness. I'm so uncoordinated. Today, I tripped over my friend backpack backpack so now I have a bloody knees and a few scratches here and there. I'm also dealing with the agony of a new tooth growing (I haven't lost all of them yet O_O) and this finger with that was jammed in my locker so under the nail, it is also blood.

In the end it goes back to blood. O_O

Posted by: Jahnavi Mar 3 2009, 3:27 PM

Yeah, I heard about that. I wouldn't mind being made into a diamond after I die, lol.

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 3 2009, 9:31 PM

XD I can't decide if it's weird or actually kind of cool.

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 3 2009, 11:18 PM

I decided a while ago I preferred cremation (yar...sorry, back to this again) because I kind of thought about traditional burials and realized my body would be in a box...never actually touching the earth. And my biologist mind whapped me and said "Hey! You're keeping precious minerals and materials from plants (and since plants are part of the food chain, also herbivores, omnivores, carvnivores, detrivores, etc--the cycle of life) so why not just give it all back to the Earth the best way you can?" and that's when I thought it would be nice to just let my body return to the soil and Earth. Yes, I'm a tree hugger ^^.

Posted by: Boo Mar 3 2009, 11:45 PM

Yay for fellow tree-huggers! xD *hugs a tree*
I don't mind talking about it either; since it's a long ways off, it doesn't bother me much at this moment in time.

Ehh...I don't like the idea of being 6 feet under ground forever in an ornate box. o_O It's just... I don't know, it's weird to me. (I've read too many ghost stories, tee hee.) I just think it would be nicer to always be a part of the places I loved instead of hanging out with the worms and such lol. But that's just the way I view it. ^_^

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 4 2009, 12:54 AM

I've always prefered cremation, too. I don't want to be in a box. .___.

And they can do a lot of interesting things with creamains. There's the jewel thing, like I said, but they can also take some and shoot them into orbit, where they float around the world for a while before coming back down as meteors. Unfortunatly, a lot of that stuff is pretty expensive.

Posted by: fullmoon Mar 4 2009, 2:07 AM

It seems like I'm the tree according to my friends. I don't really know why. It started with this comment in seventh grade when I was really scrawny and skinny. =.=

It looks like I'm the only one who wants to get buried here. I wouldn't mind becoming a jewel. I wonder how the people who owned those jewels would feel knowing that the jewels are made out of the remains of a dead person.

Well, if I ever get cremated, I will remember to tell my loved ones to don't keep the ashes in a bottle with them. I heard of a story when a maid came into the house, mistook the bottle of ashes as dirt or trash, and threw it away. O_O

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 4 2009, 2:14 AM

Hey everyone, have you hugged your tree today?

I totally understand that some people still like the idea of the "box" (like my parents, grandparents, etc). That would be the preservation/mummy way to go. And for many cultures and religions is just what you do. I like to (oh dare I say it?) think outside the box? xD So I gotta agree with a few others and say I'm not fond of the box either. Something about my body being preserved for centuries sounds...odd, to me that is, lol.

The jewel and meteor ideas are pretty cool, ...yeah, if you have the money. I've definitely seen a website or two about compressing ashes into a jewel and wearing it as a necklace or earrings, or what not. I know that might sound creepy to some, but on a scientific level we are just a bunch of atoms with our current arrangement happening to be "human". But we are made up of things that were previously other animals, plants, even minerals and rocks, and that's where our atoms will go again eventually. So coolies to the different crematory methods =).

I do feel bad for anyone who's accidentally lost a family member's ashes though >_<.

Posted by: mightymarty2 Mar 4 2009, 8:25 AM

i heard of this jewel thing on tv, as for the way I want to go, I want to go heroicly (that will never happen), to be honest i have not thought much about it. As for being a tree hugger i sit on the fence yes I want to save the enviroment yet I also want a sports car so i end up on the fence, I now have a seat there as i tend to end up there a few times.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 4 2009, 10:07 PM

To be honest, I think it's absolutely fine to dissect frogs. We had a chance to dissect rats in eighth grade but I don't think we did, although I would have loved to learn how to dissect. Besides dissecting on a computer is different than dissecting an animal itself.


That's because ashes contain carbon, and diamonds are made from carbon and other compressed stuff, so thats why. (:

Same here.

I think I still have a few teeth still growing, some have grown more than twice.


If your coffin were made out of wood, it'd eventually decompose or you can choose to not be buried in a coffin at all. Some people are just wrapped in cloth or something.



If I were to get a car, it'd probably be a Volkswagen (hint, hint, its german), I love how cute and compact they are.


I got myself measured at the doctors office I believe I'm 5'4, or 165 cm. Like I've said, I've never ever had a growth spurt, I've been the same height since I was 11 or 12. Maybe a few inches but nothing more. I hope I can get 5'7 or 5'8. But thats a dream.



Never saw "Saw". I heard its scary and gross, but whatever. It'll only get to you if you're scared of blood.

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 4 2009, 11:07 PM

I think the point of the diamond thing is to give to your family members, not to randomly sell to unsuspecting people XD

When we were cleaning somebody's appartment yesterday, we almost accidentally threw out the ashes of a pet <_< That was a close one.

And as for how I want to die? XD What an odd turn this topic has taken! I'd prefer it to be be quick and unexpected, but I want to be aware while it's happening.

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 5 2009, 12:34 AM

How I want to die? In 80 years of natural causes in my sleep xD. I've got that one planned out .

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 5 2009, 1:29 AM

I agree with Zhanneel

Posted by: fullmoon Mar 5 2009, 5:51 AM

Same here. A year ago, I found it amusing to die inside a bath tub so it would be hilarious when they found my corpse.

I think I would like to die while sleeping after I had my last Christmas meal. That would be a good death.

Posted by: winxclub-joy Mar 5 2009, 7:09 AM

o.O.

looks like I'm the very abnormal one....

I want to die, with lung cancer......


lolz

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 5 2009, 12:15 PM

Uhm, yes.
VERY.

Posted by: mightymarty2 Mar 5 2009, 1:21 PM

Small point volkswagens will be no were near my budget although I am a fan of VW.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 5 2009, 9:04 PM

The money isn't that bad, but if its really expensive I'll just wait until I have enough to get one.

Posted by: Boo Mar 5 2009, 10:20 PM

I just don't think it is right to take 10+ lives to do something you could easily view online. :/ I know it's for the sake of learning, but couldn't just one frog for the whole class do? Even with that being said, I personally think it's unnecessary to kill frogs and other animals for that purpose. The taking of animal's lives for something like that is simply wrong, in my view.


Ditto that statement.


I love VW Bugs! They're just so neat looking... and even though they look small, they're actually pretty comfortable. They definitely don't feel as small as you might think.
But, like in your case, they are just way too expensive for me as well...

Eh, I'll wait a few years for the electric car to make its return. I heard that Toyota is going to sell a plug-in hybrid electric vehicle in 2010 that looks similar to their Prius (which is a pretty spiffy looking car). Time for an alternative! Go electric for vehicles, and power the electricity with wind energy.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 6 2009, 2:27 AM

Personally I think cars should solely run on solar power. The sun is an infinite resource, we shouldn't use fossil fuels to satisfy our energy demands. As Breana pointed out to me, not all electricity is made from wind turbines or water.

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 6 2009, 3:26 AM

Oh yes...probably the biggest flaw with the electric car is that if you power it from your house you are still burning coal and fossil fuels to charge your car. I love the idea, and maybe we just need to find different ways to charge the car. A combination of solar power, wind power, and water are great ideas. Getting them to the city is another problem. But if we'd just invest the necessary time and funds into alternative fuel or electricity sources we'd get some where. Like we should have been doing since the 70s...

Posted by: mightymarty2 Mar 6 2009, 9:04 AM

Prius is a lie-i have seen test where they are less economical than an suv. Also lost too a BMW M5 or M3

Hydrogen is the best option as it is most like petrol and dieasal so you can go unlimited miles (as long as there is a fuel pump and you have enough money) with out waiting hours after going 30 miles and waiting for a recharge on the battery. Also there are hyprogen honda's out i think there si a civic and a clarity

Posted by: Boo Mar 6 2009, 1:50 PM

@ Zhanneel: True, true. If only more factories were run on wind energy and such...

Electric cars that were made (and destroyed) years ago could go far beyond 30 miles on one charge (in one case, one battery had the power to go 100 miles per charge). I think it would be nice to charge my vehicle in my garage overnight and be able to use it in the morning. It may not be practical for long-distance traveling, but it would have been less expensive and more environmentally friendly for those who do not have to drive too long distances.

I'll have to look into how many miles per charge this new electric vehicle can handle... If only we didn't rid of the ones we had years ago.

The problem with hydrogen, it may be just as, if not more, expensive then gas depending on the availability of it among other things. :/ It would be a good alternative to gas, for sure, but the fact that it would be expensive might turn some people off to the idea...

Posted by: mightymarty2 Mar 6 2009, 5:45 PM

Hydrogen can be made to be about the same price as fuel not (i think someone said that). I agree getting enough would be problematic but as James May said 'if we can get petrol from under the sea. Surly we can find a way to get hydrogen' (not exact as I cannot remember it all).

Also a point on the prius that i had forgotten it said on TV that it does more damage creating a prius than other cars, so running it will take a long time and a lot of miles to cancel that out.

At the moment the best option unless you do a lot of miles it petrol due to the greater cost and price of fuel of a diesel. Also in one test a petrol and diesal of the same car the petol was more economical admittedly the test was not a great distance

I also think to imperfection we should add staying on topic (to quite a few of us)

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 6 2009, 6:14 PM

XD Like I said, this coversation is basically way off it's original track.

I remember reading in a few news articles that mining the zinc for electric car batteries basically totally destroyed the environment where it was mined >.> So I've always been kind of wary about electric cars.

Posted by: humbu111 Mar 6 2009, 8:53 PM

[noguests]

Lol! So true! [/noguests]

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 6 2009, 9:53 PM

To be honest, compared to Europe, North America's trains are really horrible. I know for a fact Germany has trains that work on magnets, (less friction, less fuel), those trains can go super fast, like 300-500km an hour. North America should definitely invest in better trains, they're more economical than everyone taking a car everyday. Most people drive because the buses or subways are really slow, I'm certain that if all these services were improved, people would be more inclined to use them.

Uhm, perhaps polluting earth is an imperfection. xD But yes we're way off topic.

Posted by: Boo Mar 7 2009, 3:17 AM

I would love to have a nice public transportation system like those in place in Europe, but I could only see them working in big cities or between and through towns that are in close proximity to one another... I suppose I think that way because of how much empty space there is, and people, when traveling long distances, may prefer their own car. But for short distances and/or commutes, it would be a great help both to those using the train as well as our environmental state. ^_^ I see it working better in cities than anywhere else around here, though.

Hmm... we are off topic aren't we? Ah well, conversation is healthy.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 7 2009, 4:53 AM

Another imperfection, I used to be able to give presentations in class, speak loudly etc, but I feel a bit intimidated in older classes. I'm working on a huge presentation for my tech class and I'm trying to memorize my essay, word by word. YUCK. As for french, i tend to speak way faster than i ought to, i guess it shows fluidity in speech but i cant even look at the audience.

Posted by: Boo Mar 7 2009, 4:27 PM

I get nervous with presentations too ... My advice: It may help to go over your presentation in front of your parents and/or other family members once or twice (or more if it's a long presentation). It may not help the nervous factor, but it will help you memorize the material so you're comfortable with it and possibly to ensure that you won't forget parts of it (I personally wouldn't suggest memorizing word for word unless you have to.) ^_^ As for the people you are giving the presentation to, try to look for a friendly face: one that won't make you laugh or feel nervous (or maybe someone who is looking the other way or resting, that won't notice that you're focussing on them. ). Also keep in mind to look over other people in the class once in awhile though, since eye contact is important in speeches. (Some teachers may mark off if you do not move your eyes from one side of the room to the other.)

Posted by: Bloom girl Mar 7 2009, 7:34 PM

XD !!!!!

Posted by: Boo Mar 8 2009, 12:24 AM

xD The problem with that is you might start laughing.

Posted by: fullmoon Mar 8 2009, 12:56 AM

I never try to imagine people in their underwear. I know it would make my laugh or blush really badly because I would be aware that my mind is that perverted to imagine such an image.

I have another imperfection. I tend to laugh really hard when I'm nervous.

Posted by: Boo Mar 8 2009, 1:01 AM

Really? Kind of like nervous laughter... awkward situations are no fun. >_<

My face turns bright red whenever I'm nervous, taken aback by something or when I'm lying... which stinks, because then everyone knows I'm fibbing. lol

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 8 2009, 6:17 PM

I can lie so well its impossible to tell if I saying the truth.

Posted by: humbu111 Mar 8 2009, 7:26 PM

[noguests]Yeah, I try not to lie, and unless I'm lying something as a joke, I think I can keep a pretty straight face. [/noguests]

Posted by: Tom273 Mar 8 2009, 9:56 PM

I can keep a straight face too when lying but i dont lie much anyway. I am too honest sometimes and maybe that's one imprefection about me.

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 9 2009, 4:17 AM

It's weird, I don't lie often, but when I do, I find I do better when I have to make it up on the spot more than if I have a little time to think about it o_o;

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 9 2009, 7:50 PM

I won't lie unless it's to motivate or change someone for the better. Other than that I dare not lie because 1) I just feel bad, and a little like an impostor of myself and 2) I don't want to get in the habit of it.

However...if my mom is taking a horrendously long time to get out of the house I will set the living room clock ahead about 10 or 15 minutes and say "Mom! We're running late! Look at the time!" Actually, my sister is the same way. Agh!

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 9 2009, 9:28 PM

...I should try that with my mom. She takes foreveeeeeeer.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 9 2009, 9:33 PM

The trick to lying, is 1) Make eye contact, 2) Don't twiddle your thumbs or do any gestures, 3) DON'T LAUGH, 4) Don't blush, 5) Don't sweat (its mucho gross!), 6) Seem sincere, 7) Avoid using, she, he, etc, use the occasional "I" statement so it won't be suspicious. xD Make your emotions realistic, if you're trying to smile, don't round the corners of your mouth, try to smile naturally, 'cause people will know its fake.

Hope this helps!

Posted by: humbu111 Mar 9 2009, 10:19 PM

[noguests]Lol I tend to blush-ish when I'm lying sometimes. And I only lie when a) I need to get out of trouble b) Someone seriously deserves it or c) Something's unfair. Usually two or even all three apply at once. [/noguests]

Posted by: SuperChick Mar 10 2009, 12:52 AM

yah i cain't lie i can keep a straigt face but i stutter when i lie

Posted by: winxtecna Mar 10 2009, 1:11 AM

I can't keep a straight face when I'm lying to my family, but to anyone else I can. I'm not too proud of that....

Posted by: winxtecna Mar 10 2009, 1:18 AM

Yeah, I think I should. Thanks for pointing that out!!

Posted by: fullmoon Mar 10 2009, 2:21 AM

What I can't do is not laughing or smiling. I just can't.

I one time was almost going to be dishonest when I saw that I got a 100% on a certain difficult test but when I went through the answers, I found there was one question wrong. In the end, I told on myself anyways and said bye to my 100. =.=

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 10 2009, 4:03 AM

Wow...lying is not that hard, for me its almost compulsive, I think I lie or make up stuff about 50x a day, but that's where it gets tricky because keeping track of what you've said is kinda hard.

I get sucky grades because I don't bother trying, its too easy, for example my english test, 100% and I finished it in less than a minute. (No joke, this is not a lie). The teacher can be babbling about something random and I'll know the answer. I like challenging classes not stupid easy ones.

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 10 2009, 7:54 PM

Some of my teachers let you keep your grade if you turn yourself in for a mistake, anyway, so I normally just tell them.

Posted by: Boo Mar 10 2009, 11:30 PM

Seriously?? That's not a very good habit. (Well, it does depend what you're fibbing about. If it's something small, then it might not be a huge deal.)
I personally try not to lie that much... But when I do, I lie when I want an excuse to not do something (like not going on a date...) For example: I lied to someone saying that I have a boyfriend (I don't) and that he wouldn't like it if I went on a date. I did feel just awful after saying that, though... or maybe it was the angry call I received from the person wanting to go on that date after he received that text message.... Whoops!

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 11 2009, 1:05 AM

Well its not really big stuff I lie about.

Posted by: winxclub-joy Mar 11 2009, 5:40 AM

lying, wow I'm pretty good at lying to my grandma that I'm studying......But the truth is I'm actually doing shopping with friends lolz

Posted by: Tom273 Mar 12 2009, 3:32 PM

I rarely lie and when i do the things i lie about are minor ones. I can't lie to my family or my friends without feeling bad...

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 12 2009, 10:32 PM

Same here. My conscience is rather loud when it comes to being moralistic. lol

Posted by: Boo Mar 13 2009, 12:35 AM

Ditto. That's why it takes me forever to make a decision in some cases: should I lie, or not? (When it comes to "bigger" lies. Not the little fibs I use for excuses)
Like...
(Take note that I'm 16):
Me: One ticket to 'Role Models' please.
Guy behind the counter at the theater: How old are you?
Me: Errrmm... *pause* 17.
Guy: That will be *insert dollar amount here*. Enjoy your movie
Me: *whew*
(While my 17 and 18 year old friends are laughing behind me, making it apparent that I had lied to the guy.)

Posted by: fullmoon Mar 13 2009, 2:45 AM

That is hilarious! I don't think I will be able to lie about my age up to 17. I would be shocked if people bought that I was actually 17 even though I'm tall enough to pass for it, I don't want to look four years older than I really am.

Not sure if I said this already but I'm really clumsy. I fall everytime during P.E. =.= That means I fall at least everyday. Yet I still have never broken a bone. I surprise myself everyday.

Posted by: winxclub-joy Mar 13 2009, 1:18 PM

I'm always got mistook like as if I'm 20 because of my height....(Bloomfan mistook me as 23 when we met for the 1st time........)

But actually, I'm seventeen.....

Maybe next time if I want to watch M18, I'll lie to the ticket counter xD

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 13 2009, 4:25 PM

I have the reverse affliction Joy. I look like I'm 17 but am 23 xP. If I ever lose my ID/Driver's License I'll need you to get me into mature movies, lol. I need some glamour magic to make myself look older. Ha, in a few more years I'll be wishing I looked younger.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 13 2009, 9:04 PM

Sometimes I seem like I don't have a conscience, I do, and it takes a lot to overcome it. I haven't lied recently, so its an improvement.

Posted by: Boo Mar 13 2009, 10:51 PM

That's good! It's good that you're trying to improve.

I personally don't have anything against little fibs, though... tee hee. (Like explained earlier). Sometimes it's better to lie then to tell the person the honest truth (I'd have a lot of enemies if I did that... specifically male enemies.)

I could pass as being older (most of the freshman in my school seem to think I'm either a junior or a senior, as I've been asked countless times. I find it funny that one of my teachers had always assumed I was a senior.) I think it has to do with level of maturity in my case, though. I may not look any older then those in my class, but I sure do act more mature then most.

Even online, some people think I'm 18+. It makes me laugh a little on some days. ^_^

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 13 2009, 11:35 PM

The movie theatre around here just seems to be on my side XD I've went into rated R movies before I was technically old enough and they didn't question me, but they also don't make me show ID when I want to buy a student ticket. The student thing isn't a lie, but I forget my school ID all the time so it's still handey.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 14 2009, 2:51 AM

I actually look younger than my age, if I wanted to see a higher rated movie I'd go with my mom.

Posted by: fullmoon Mar 14 2009, 5:22 AM

People don't usually think that I'm thirteen. They think I'm fourteen or fifteen. I should stop pulling a distress face everytime I find out you need to be a certain age to enter or something because that just gives everything away. >< I have no idea how old I am to people on the internet. I feel really young all of a sudden. O_O

Posted by: winxclub-joy Mar 18 2009, 1:05 PM

Why do I look much more older than my age T-T

I'm seventeen, SEVENTEEN!!!! NOT 20 for goodness sake! T-T

And I got to tell you a joke, a very bad joke

There was a time, I went to 7 eleven wearing with a normal outgoing look (Tee and jeans) While making my payment to the cashier, the cashier/salesman (Whom have a very bad service manners since I've been there for a few times)

(And that cashier is Indian, I may not be racists to Indians, but in Singapore versions, most of their attitudes pissed me off. Why is because they are really impolite, and there's a "incident" that one of them purposely "Mistook" a chinese girl as a prostitute.)


And he gave me a glance, gaving me a dirty look and said:

"Auntie, that would be $??.??"

*I'm not over my thrity and I'M NOT MARRIED YET!*

I tried not to throw my temper on him, since I'm rushing time. I handed him the money, and when he gave me back the change by just throwing it on the cashier table.

"Thank You auntie"

I was then really pissed off, grabbed my things, show him a very black look and storms out from the store.


Yeah, someone "Mistook" me as a married housewife =.="

Posted by: Zhanneel Mar 18 2009, 3:00 PM

LOL, sorry Joy xP. I know the "Auntie" rule too. That classification is typically only used for older, sometimes married Indian women. (Well, I guess it could also be used in cases where the person is relatively quite a bit older than you too.) Aww, you have my sympathies, but I doubt you look that old yet, so don't worry!

Posted by: winxclub-joy Mar 18 2009, 3:05 PM

xP


curl my hair like what the asian had in the 60s, there I'll be one.....

LOLZ


Being tall is not that good after all, especially when you have chubby looks.........

Posted by: bloom_daphne Mar 18 2009, 6:49 PM

WOW. that dude is creepy.

Posted by: Tom273 Mar 20 2009, 3:25 PM

im 21 but people usally think i look like im 16 which is weird but also cool.

edit:weird typo

Posted by: winxclub-joy Mar 21 2009, 11:52 AM

I hope I'm forever fifteen or sixteen forever too........... =(

Posted by: humbu111 Mar 21 2009, 5:28 PM

[noguests]Yeah, I wish I could stay in my late teens for a LONG time... nearly there. I cant belive already like almost half of my teenage life has gone by and nothing really special has happened. [/noguests]

Posted by: fullmoon Mar 21 2009, 9:59 PM

I'm still a tween. It is very sad. ><

Actually, even over here, it is considered polite to call someone older than you auntie or uncle. Well, only at some social gatherings where almost everyone is asian. Not calling them auntie or uncle is rude.

That guy needs to go jump off a cliff (pardon my violent language) . =.= I doubt you look like a married woman. Someone must have more judgmental skills than that.

Posted by: Tom273 Mar 21 2009, 10:06 PM

atleast being a member here makes me feel younger, i hate getting older.

Posted by: Another Morning Mar 22 2009, 1:41 AM

I'm good being 17. I don't wanna turn 18, then I'm legally an adult and I have to like, be responsible and stuff D:

Posted by: winxclub-joy Mar 22 2009, 2:41 AM

yeah, I still want to be a teenager!

Posted by: fullmoon Mar 27 2009, 7:11 PM

Hmm...the good thing about becoming an adult is you get to move out and go to college and you have more freedom. I like staying young.

Posted by: Tom273 Mar 29 2009, 2:45 PM

i know i have some responsabilities and they are annoying, everything was easier when i was younger.

Posted by: bloom_daphne Apr 1 2009, 3:50 AM

Same here, I hate having responsibilities, I don't like being in charge of something and messing up.
As for Asian people, I'm like best friends with them at my school, they're so nice. (:

Posted by: Tom273 Apr 5 2009, 1:37 PM

I have a wacky obsession about long hair now. XD I wonder what people will say when they see me after i have grown long hair they will propably think im a wacko... and the wackiest part of all is that im a blonde rofl almost white hair i will propably look like a girl and end up being embrassed about it. But i don't care it's what i want to do and if some people think im weird then im just gonna ignore them... lol embrassing stuff.

Posted by: Fortress Guy Apr 6 2009, 2:10 AM

Girls have a gift of not caring too much about what someone they care about looks like. They can more easily place value on the important stuff. The stuff that lasts a lifetime.

But girls can also sometimes carry a curse. They can have a hard time overcoming their own unique features which may not be out of the pages of Vogue. Do what you can to look your best and be healthy. However like Bloom-Daphne said, do it for the right reasons.

Also, as guys mature they begin to look more at the important things. You may be slightly surprised too that we have tastes that often diverge from the runway model or pop star look. Some guys like taller and meaty, while other short and petite. Some go for athletic flat-chested tomboys while others the classic hourglass shape.

The most important thing is what Bloom-Daphne said above. What YOU think about yourself quickly becomes apparent to everyone around you in a short time. You can try to hide it, but it will come out. So buck up your willpower. Stop biting your nails. Do what you can do for your looks and leave it at that. Feel good about the person you are.

That may be one of the most attractive qualities of all.

Posted by: Zhanneel Apr 6 2009, 2:38 AM

*nod* Very insightful, and it helps to have a guy (or Fortress Guy)--bad joke, sorries--alleviate some female fears.

I tend to think we all put too much emphasis on looks anyway. I've met so many people, not stellar-looking by far, just normal-looking (nothing wrong with that at all). It's when I get to know them and their personalities that I find they are much more attractive to me than I might have thought from just looking at them from a distance. I hate first impressions based on looks alone. I never thought that was fair. People can get more beautiful, physically and mentally, the more I know them. Also, smiles are intriguing little devices. One well aimed smile and you got me hook, line, and sinker, lol. [/corny rant]

Posted by: winxclub-joy Apr 6 2009, 8:54 AM

lol, like I have a very innocence look but the inner me was fierce and spoiled. xD

Posted by: Tom273 Apr 6 2009, 10:39 AM

hehe that's all true

Posted by: Zhanneel Apr 30 2009, 1:51 AM

Hahaha, you cannot fool me. Under that spoiled layer there is yet a third layer of good again. Everyone will have selfish moments, but we also know that others are important as well.

Posted by: Boo Apr 30 2009, 3:56 AM

That was a very nicely stated post, Fortress Guy. ^_^

But, unfortunately, feeling better about yourself, for some people, is easier said than done. Even if one tries to feel better about the way they look or act, if there is any slight bit of insecurity, the media will send that newly gained pride right back to level 1. After being gradually exposed to the image the media portrays to be perfect, and seeing it day to day, it becomes hard to think that beauty can be anything but what they think it is (and that is definitely a skewed opinion of beauty: it's all Photoshop and unhealthy habits), and yet, breaking free of that mentality, breaking free of what they think is "beauty" and what you have grown to accept as "beauty", is hard to do.

I hate this vicious cycle, and the sooner the media slows the constant display of this skewed image, the sooner some can begin to mentally heal.

(And I think this way, yet, I've come to watch this image in action, just as many people do... I can't believe I have a weak spot for America's Next Top Model... goodness gracious... it's just awful.)


Chalk this one up for another imperfections:
I have a habit of writing random babbles and rants...
I write waaayy too much on the web (such as on this forum).
Problem is: No one wants to read my 3 paragraphs of whatever my opinion may be, so why do I even type it out? (Good question; one that I ask myself a lot).
You can see a perfectly good example of this above... o_O

Posted by: Tom273 Apr 30 2009, 9:20 PM

that is all true... im never happy with myself or what i do, but i hope someday i can be happy.

Posted by: Boo May 1 2009, 12:00 AM

If it's any consolation, I feel the same way. I feel that I can never reach the standards I set for myself: in my appearance, my work, my creative "ability" (that I lack anyway), my schoolwork... just everything. What's even worse is sometimes I even feel as if these standards I place upon myself are also ones that others adopt, thus making this burden feel overwhelming.
But that's just me and my nature. :/

I hope you can learn to become happy with yourself in everything you do; for that is being truly content, and everyone deserves that. No one deserves to be unhappy with themselves, it's an awful feeling. I also hope that, one day, you will look at yourself and view all the good you've done instead of the bad, and from there, you will feel that burden of unhappiness disappear. :)

Posted by: Zhanneel May 1 2009, 2:58 AM

I like what you had to say there Boo. The more qualities you admire about yourself, the more confident and happy you will become. If you know you are good, kind, generous, helpful, hard-working, creative, etc, you stand a pretty good chance at overcoming self-confidence issues.

@Tom: I bet you don't give yourself enough credit. It's okay to pat yourself on the back from time to time. You've got good qualities, even if you don't think about it much. And it's never too late to gain more qualities either. There is no limit. ; )

My example: I admire my will power to eat healthy (most of the time, heh). Something simple like that. =)

Posted by: Fortress Guy May 1 2009, 4:29 AM

Thank you Boo, and let us start with pointing out that I and others read this particular rant. Unless your others are on mitochondria and other micro-cellular structures in fruit flies, I cannot see why they are not read.

There is no argument that the media skews beauty in certain ways. However they are unlikely to stop. So it is up to us as individuals to ground ourselves and be the best "us" we can be. In martial arts, in art, in everything there is always someone better. Sometimes we just have to stop comparing.

Look at Winxtecna. She displayed her personal art knowing that others out there are very, very talented like Jess. Still her Shine piece spoke to me and hopefully gave Winxtecna great satisfaction.

I would say do not build up your pride as you mentioned on unimportant stuff or in comparison to some photoshopped model. Build true feelings of worth on what is really praiseworthy about you. I could start a list of good things right here about you.

I know this is an uphill battle. I know! Pretty is pretty, and we all know how to see it on the surface. Fortunately we are built to also look past the surface if we want. That can take work.

You also said this: "I feel that I can never reach the standards I set for myself: in my appearance, my work, my creative "ability" (that I lack anyway), my schoolwork... just everything."

I have wrestled with that. I think many of us do. Try taking some solace in the smaller steps. If you want to lose 20 pounds celebrate each day you do well. If your art is not what it could be rejoice in each little lesson learned. If your schoolwork is not up to par take the extra time (no fun I know) and then smile at the results, even the little ones. At least do your best and have no regrets. I need to keep learning and relearning these lessons all the time.

Keep sharing and helping. Now you drew me into a rant! Nice job.

Posted by: jsispitz May 1 2009, 4:59 AM

Posted by: mightymarty2 May 1 2009, 8:10 AM

i have the same problem tom

Posted by: Boo May 2 2009, 12:43 PM

I agree.
An addition: they always say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so one may look at themselves and think one way while another person may look at them and think they're simply gorgeous. Of course, this isn't really portrayed much in the media, where the definition of a beautiful person all leans towards sameness and all include factors such as being tall, skinny, etc. Of course, like you mentioned, people, though it may be quite difficult, need to look beyond this unhealthy image to be satisfied with themselves. If an abnormal, unhealthy supermodel is the basis for comparison to them, then they'll never be able to look at themselves and actually think that they look nice.

If one just keeps in mind that they are beautiful, and despite what others may think, they are still beautiful, then they might feel a bit better about everything they do (a boost for self-confidence, which is always needed once in awhile. It makes you feel better about yourself in one aspect, and that good feeling usually carries over to other aspects... well, at least for some).



I think my problem lies with my self confidence; these standards I set for myself tend to be outrageous. Like, for weight, I think I'm fat when I look at myself in the mirror, but I weigh under 100 pounds. I get straight A's, yet, I think I can, and must, do better somehow. I write articles for work weekly, and yet, I always feel as if they are not good enough or they are incomplete and I never gain a sense of satisfaction after I finally publish them online. I know I probably sound incredibly odd (or crazy) here, but for some reason, I just never feel as if I'm reaching what I want to be in any of these aspects.

Thanks for the advice. :) Maybe taking things in smaller amounts might work; I tend to overwhelm myself, thus, always throwing my current situation in constant turmoil which really tends to break down any shreds of confidence I may have had before.

Bleh, I'll stop talking about myself. I don't want to sound self-consumed.


Ha ha; yay ranting! I read it all; very well written.
(And now look what I've done again... I can never just write a couple sentences. )

Posted by: Fortress Guy May 3 2009, 1:39 AM

Thanks Boo. I am glad we exchanged rants.

Do not focus on the whole, it can be too overwhelming. Just do the "next thing".

Posted by: Meru May 17 2009, 6:32 PM

The sad part is that many of these girls who want to look like the models in Vogue do not realize that what they see in magazines is fake the girl on the cover probably had a big huge red pimple right on the tip of her nose during that shoot- the wonders of photoshop
Editors also take out most/if not all freckles or moles if they have them, make their eyes bigger, lengthen the neck and make is thinner, raise cheekbones etc.

I LOVE this commercial!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U

I did three years of photography in college; we were shown how to do all of that in photoshop; but I never wanted to do it and have forgotten how over the years, but we do take out blemishes, soften the skin sometimes, adjust the tones and even add a rosy tint to cheeks (ive never done it but seen it been done)

I knew that what we are shown in magazines and such were fake, but once you yourself learn the process, and use parts of it, i dunno @_@

I have 'imperfections' but I wouldnt want to look like a fake person.



It cannot be done DX< mother tried everything when I was young, the only time I don't chew is when I have professionally done acryllic nails on because they are like STEEL D< I can play with them in my teeth but they wont break >3



so; I'm a nail-biter, but I have accepted that part of myself and nobody really cares what my fingernails look like anyways.
I don't really like the way my face scrunches up when I smile <___< (one factor in why I don't like my picture taken)
'friends' in Junior High used to make fun of my two front teeth, saying that I had Chicklit teeth (chicklit being those little square pieces of chewing gum) So at the time I was self conscious of my teeth; but after I lost touch with those girls I got over it...

My hair <____<. I like it; but sometimes I don't. And all the time people say how lucky I am, but they themselves have hair that feels so thin to me its sickening, thus they do not understand the burden of thick hair.
To my knowledge all of the hairdressers I have been to have never encountered hair as thick as my own. Even when I was down in Cuba! DX Getting my hair done for my sister's wedding. I watched the lady's eyes bulge in the mirror when she put her hands in my hair.
If I want to dye my hair ( I used to do it at home all the time) doing it at home consisted of buying two boxes of dye (and if i was beaching before dying I needed 2 bleach 2 dye) and those two boxes JUST barely got all (i think all there might have been some missed spots underneath in teh back) my hair done with a LOT of lathering.
Now whenever I get my hair done I go to the same hair dresser because she is used to my hair; and she knows how much dye she'd need (enough for 3 "normal" people @_@)

It doesn't help that I can't style hair for the life of me cause apparently thick hair=endless possibilities <__<;;
I cant even braid it because it wont all hold at the length its at (3 inches above my elbows)

<< blah..


I'm not too worried in chest size. I'm not flat, but im not huge @_@ (thank god)

My biggest issues are my belly/weight and my legs.

I'm not overweight, and although I have gained about 10lbs since my last check up a couple years ago, for someone my size I had(might be a bit off now XD) the perfect weight and body mass .___. my doctor told me it was the first time she told someone that they had a 'perfect' body (my ego rose a couple notches that day XD)
I used to train really hardcore when I could paddle. Running(walking xD) weight lifting etc and actually paddling was probably one of the most intense workouts I've ever done. Most Canadians don't even know what warcanoe is and its a sport that is only done in canada @_@ so here is a video of a bunch of people i don't know racing
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5LUVPCLkCCY
its harder than it looks << you have to train for weeks to simply be able to kneel in the boat without falling.

anyways off my tangent and my shameless spreading of warcanoe knowledge~~~~
I paddled on the right side of the boat; meaning i knelt on my right knee with my left knee stuck out in front of me (much like i was proposing to someone) I can no longer do this (at least for another year or... 3*hopefully just one year or 2 tops ;_;*) because back in September my messed up knees finally decided to fight back, and my kneeling knee dislocated itself, putting it on the outside-side of my leg, effectively ripping itself off of the quad muscles that held it in place. I was on the floor, my leg was bent, where my knee should have been was flat and there was a buldge on the side of it. Lets all just say I sometimes think about it and shudder, I remember it before I go to sleep and shudder @_@. I realize that theres a HUGE chance that it will happen at least once more (and they will only fix it with surgery if i pop it out either a 2nd or 3rd time <__<)
I was on crutches until the end of October (first time i walked without crutches I cried XD) and I had a HUGE limp on until maybe the start of January. It took about 6 months to be able to bend my right leg as much as I can bend my left, and even then it hurt to do so.
During that time I was irritable because I couldn't get around on my own (people had to drive me places) and I couldn't do certain things.
I gained a bit of muscle in my arms from crutching around so much, and I lost weight but it wasnt the place i wanted to loose weight.

my right calve muscle is still smaller than the other though you cant tell by just looking at it unless you actually look for it being smaller... and I still have a hard time crouching.

the whole messed up knee escapade helped me add to the tummy i had, because I wasn't getting a lot of exercise. If i was in school all day I'd get home and pass out from exhaustion because i had to crutch my body around witht he addition of a 20lbs(i kid you not i weighed it) bag.

.... another tangent << sorry dont read my crap xD

once i can jog safely I plan on getting out there and doing so; I also need to work on my abs so that I can tone down the belly I've aquired.

my LAST(yes i promise) 'imperfection' is my thighs.
because I paddled and did the intense work outs that came with paddling; My legs got really muscly (you use your leg and lower back muscles not your arms to paddle) my thighs in particular, I always found to be chunky, I knew that it was all muscles and stuff, but i just didnt like seeing them accompanied with a bathing suit or short shorts << so I wore (and still prefer to wear) board shorts that go to my knees so people dont see my thighs. I swam in them and everything. I'm trying to get out of it slowly... though the stretch marks from these muscles still make me feel not so good.

When I was high on morphine (yes, yes I was they gave me lots and I don't drink pop/soda or even alcohol so it had a huge effect on me XD) I named my thighs 'Thunder' and 'Lightning' and told the paramedics to refer to them as such. XD it was a good night minus the obvious <<


okay... im done my rant full of off topic things XD I appologise XD

Posted by: Boo Jun 18 2009, 3:08 AM

Awww, Meru, I really hope that you can come to love every "imperfection" you listed...

Actually, if it's any consolation, I hate my thick hair too. I want it to be thin and straight; not thick and naturally curly. But if you think about it, some of those people with straight, thin hair might absolutely love to have thick hair... As the saying goes, "The grass is always greener on the other side".

And ranting is alright (I do it all too often, lol). We're always here to listen.

Thanks for sharing that commercial! It pretty much sums up everything that was said about "fake models" and the false impression the media is sending. ^_^

Posted by: Fortress Guy Jun 18 2009, 4:16 AM

That was quite the debrief Meru. I am glad some of the things I said served as launching platforms for you -- not that you really needed them! You had a lot to say and I trust it felt good to say it.

You sound like you are in tune with yourself; your strengths and weaknesses. I like that you seem to have a plan to improve what you can improve and make the most of the rest. None of us are close to perfect outside of photoshop. The real battle for satisfaction and sanity starts in our own thinking.

Posted by: Abdu 6b Jun 18 2009, 11:20 PM

Other than being as skinny as Bloom and having black, curly hair that grows upwards and uneven skin tone I have nothing else

Posted by: sweetmusa Jun 19 2009, 12:23 AM

i have a girl in my sunday school class like that

Posted by: Music123 Jul 21 2009, 12:31 PM

Hmmm my imperfections....

Well, although my BMI is 23.5 (that's average) I still feel as though I am overweight Mainly because of my hips. I have a 'pear' shaped body you see (that's the most common body shape for people). It's just my waist is slim while my hips quite big. I walk and run everyday but that weight on my hips just simply stays on...

Also on my face I have freckles at just random places, you can't see them when I am just standing in front of you but when I look very closely in the mirror there are HEAPS of them.

Posted by: Jahnavi Jul 21 2009, 4:04 PM

...My BMI is around 14.8; my parents and even my doctor think that's okay, but my friends keep insisting that I'm sick. =P

Posted by: Music123 Jul 22 2009, 12:33 AM

well here are the BMI calculations:

Underweight = <18.5
Normal weight = 18.5-24.9
Overweight = 25-29.9
Obesity = BMI of 30 or greater

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jul 22 2009, 10:10 AM

my BMI is high.....28 plus....gotta go on a strict diet

But I'm skinny =P serious, no fats....except for small tummy

Posted by: mightymarty2 Jul 22 2009, 4:06 PM

BMI doesn't work for everyone the most famous example is rugby players

Posted by: fullmoon Jul 23 2009, 1:58 AM

Well, if you have more fat than muscle, then your BMI may be higher even though you don't weigh a lot. If your BMI goes up and you loose when, it isn't pretty. I think my imperfection is not really anything to do with my body but rather that I'm really lazy and don't have any motivation to work hard unless it is something I enjoy. ><

Posted by: Boo Jul 25 2009, 12:59 PM

Bah! I do not believe it. (Or maybe I'm in denial).
I don't think its really official or too reliable, but I've been tracking my weight on this mobile application, and after 5 or so days of keeping track, it says my BMI (body mass index) is 15.6.

I've been told that I'm terribly underweight by my friends. I probably shouldn't disclose my weight in pounds...

I never believe them, though, nor do I believe the scale. My mind does not digest the number, but the appearance. And every time I look in the mirror, I never feel content.



@ Breana: I feel the same way. If I do not like the activity (like running, for example), then I'm not going to work all too extremely hard at it.

Posted by: winxclubrox23 Jul 27 2009, 5:13 AM

Let's see:

Well I've had braces for like...almost 3 years now. Only a few more months! They come off September 13th, so then I'll have nice teeth, so it's all good XD.

I'm also 5'4, which is pretty annoying. Out of all my friends, I think I'm taller than one? And she's like 5'2.

Posted by: fullmoon Jul 27 2009, 6:48 AM

5'4? You are still probably going to keep growing. >< I rather be short though. I feel like the taller you are the more you stick out like a sore thumb unless you really want to become a pro basketball player, model, or something like that. That is just my opinion though. I'm 5'7.

I seem to have a different problem. I really need to get the muscle I lost from staying indoors during the summer. My BMI increased to 26-28 (forgot exact number) and I lost five pounds. That is a problem for me O_O. GYM! HERE I COME!

Posted by: Tash Jul 27 2009, 1:15 PM

1. My hair
I have split ends. gosh my hair is so messy. plus i have no idea what my hair colour is, im getting told its:
Blond
Brown
Strawberry Blond
Red
WHAT COLOR IS IT!?

2. Freckles

I have alot of them!

3. Feet

Last month i was size 2, now im size 8.(thats means my feet are bigger then my grandmothers)


Alright, im done.


Tips...i just cant think of any. im not exactly a helper when it comes to what people look like.

Posted by: winxclubrox23 Jul 27 2009, 9:44 PM

I haven't grown in 2 years. My mom's 5'1, and my dad's like...I dunno...5'9? Their both short, so it kinda makes sense that I'm only 5'4.

Posted by: winxclubrox23 Jul 27 2009, 10:10 PM

My grandpa's like...6'3 or so, but otherwise, no, not really like super tall or anything.

Posted by: winxclubrox23 Jul 27 2009, 10:20 PM

Yeah. Lol, I'm supposed to be between 5'4 and 5'6. I'm 5'4 now and haven't grown any for two years so...

Posted by: winxclub-joy Jul 28 2009, 9:52 AM

don't be tall like me, being mistook as a 23 years old by my BFF T-T

Posted by: fullmoon Jul 29 2009, 7:11 PM

I'm just glad that I'm not 6 ft. Right now I'm 5'7 at fourteen years old. Maybe it was because I drank lots of milk when I was younger. Right now I'm taller than my mom and sister. I heard some girls stopped growing once they had their period.

Posted by: sweetmusa Jul 31 2009, 5:29 PM

i'm 5'6

Posted by: Music123 Aug 1 2009, 12:20 PM

I am 165 cm, or 5'5

Posted by: Boo Aug 4 2009, 11:10 PM

Believe it or not, you're lucky. I've had mine on for 4 years and still have no idea when they're coming off.
In fact, they just put this insanely annoying and painful wire on my bottom teeth today... x_x What's worse? They told me I'd get used to it... Yeah; I'll get used to this wire that is sticking outward and is cutting the inside of my mouth every time I talk. Thhhaaannnkkks
I wish mine were coming off as soon as that!!! *cries*

I'm not tall enough to be on America's Next Top Model. *and sigh*
Ha ha, just kidding. I wouldn't try to be.
But I am shorter than 5'8". I just don't know exactly how "short" or "tall" I am... he he he.

Posted by: dittadulla Aug 4 2009, 11:34 PM

Well, some say that's so. Our school nurse says that girls stop growing or grow just a little after their first peroid, but then another resource says they tend to grow until the age of 16; disregarding the peroids. Although it always varies.



xD One and a half centimeter taller than I; 163.5 =P



Oooow poor you! >< I've had braces on my bottom teeth since August last year (The orthodentist(sp?) says it's almost over =D) and braces in upper teeth since last March.

Posted by: Jahnavi Aug 5 2009, 1:27 AM

I had braces for just about a year; I got them off about two years ago, but I still have a permanent wire retainer behind the incisors and canines on both jaws. Don't know when that'll get taken off...

Oh, and I'm just 5'2"! *cries*

Posted by: dittadulla Aug 6 2009, 12:03 PM

>_> Stop making me feel short, Mazei. ...Wait no that's only half a centimeter taller...

@Jah: Yeah my cousin has that after her braces were off earlier this year... She says she has to wear it for fifteen years 0_0 That's like, until she's thirty.

Posted by: dittadulla Aug 6 2009, 5:28 PM

And a half is even less XD

Posted by: winxclubrox23 Aug 6 2009, 7:02 PM

Yes! *Highfives* Alright!



Omg, I can barely talk right now. My braces have cut up the entire left hand side of my mouth. It's the second most painful braces induced injury I've ever had. There's like an indent of my wire all along the side of my mouth. Ah!

Oh, and now I don't even know it their coming off in September because my elastics refuse to do anything at all. *Sniffles* I don't know if I can take this anymore!

Posted by: dittadulla Aug 6 2009, 7:23 PM

@AD: XD bwahaha.

@Teagan: Ouch! ><

Posted by: Fortress Guy Aug 6 2009, 8:10 PM

Hang in there braces peeps. You know sooner or later they WILL come off. It is a discomfort you KNOW will come to an end. Sometimes just knowing some particular suffering has an endpoint can sometimes give us the reserves of patience and energy to withstand it.

FG

Posted by: CaffinatedAngst Aug 7 2009, 12:34 AM

I had braces. My orthodontist said that I had the most stubborn teeth she had ever seen. XD

I'm 5'6". I was suppose to be minimum 5'8". It doesn't help that I have a female cousin whose 5'10" and another one whose 6'0".

Posted by: fullmoon Aug 8 2009, 5:07 AM

To people who have braces: Just imagine what perfect teeth you will have when you take them off. ^.^

I hope I stop growing. I'm a exception to stereotyped asian girl who are short and petite.

Posted by: Boo Aug 8 2009, 7:19 PM

I personally am starting to think, four years later, that perfect teeth are not worth it. My teeth look alright now... just take the braces off, please!!!
Although, it definitely could be worse. My friend had her braces on for six years, and when they did come off, she had to undergo surgery on her jaw... Eek!

@ Teagan: Eeek! That sounds painful. x_x
Has your orthodontist ever given you dental wax to cover up annoying wires? They help the cutting-into-mouth-constantly situation some... (though sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't...)

Put this one up on the board for another imperfection:
I can't sing... at all...
Actually, I used to be able to sing decently to a point, but my chorus teacher in middle school quickly rid of my love for it...

Posted by: winxclubrox23 Aug 9 2009, 3:32 AM

Oh yeah. I'm down to my 2nd last piece of wax though, and since Whitehorse isn't a huge town, we don't have an orthodontist here 24/7. He comes up every month from Vancouver. Right now, he's not here, and the next time I see him in September, my braces are "coming off" he says (though I'm beginning to have doubts...)

Posted by: Jahnavi Aug 9 2009, 8:04 AM

*blinkblink* Fifteen years? Whoa. I was supposed to get my retainers taken out last year, but for a combination of reasons it hasn't been done yet...

Posted by: winxclub-joy Aug 9 2009, 3:35 PM

that is wayy too long, 15.............

by that time I should already fpoints my gun at my dentist and force him to take those braces out, lol.....

*I don't wear braces*

Posted by: dittadulla Aug 9 2009, 8:15 PM

I know, I didn't really believe her But then she said she was serious.

Posted by: winxclubrox23 Aug 9 2009, 11:21 PM

*Jaw drops*

Fif...fifteen years? Oh, gosh! And I thought I had my braces on for a long time! Holy jeez!

Posted by: dittadulla Aug 10 2009, 12:21 AM

Well, it's that wire thingie that's behind her teeth, isn't spotted. Unless you look closely with her mouth wide open XD

[EDIT: typo.]

Posted by: Jahnavi Aug 10 2009, 12:33 AM

Lol, that's what I have too...

Posted by: dittadulla Aug 10 2009, 12:56 AM

So I don't know if my cousin is making a fool of me or not; but I'd be careful XD

Posted by: Boo Aug 11 2009, 1:18 PM

No kidding!

I do hope she was exaggerating... otherwise... wow! Wow... That's a ridiculously large amount of time.

Posted by: Jahnavi Aug 13 2009, 8:29 AM

...I'm hopefully getting my wire-retainer-thingie off on Monday. *crosses fingers*

Posted by: fullmoon Aug 13 2009, 6:58 PM

FIFTEEN! That seems too long to be true unless her teeth are that bad....I'd rather get many surgeries if possible if it was ever going to be for fifteen years. Plus, I haven't even lived fifteen years. How sad. ><