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[bloomskylove]

i have a friend who is going out with my x-bf. im happy for her. the thing is he is cheating on her. i told her but she doesn't believe me. her brother does though. what do i do???

[mightymarty2]

I have never been in this situation, but its going to hurt her when she does find out which is likely. So be there for her.

Well if her brother believes you try to show a united front in telling her as two people telling her that he is cheating on her. Also try to get other people who are trust worthy to tell her. Although this could lead to the problem like you are trying to break them up, even though your not.

I hope this helps

[Jahnavi]

Try to prove to her that he is cheating on her. She probably doesn't believe you because she doesn't want to believe that her boyfriend is cheating on her. This may hurt her, but you have to find some way to show her that he's cheating on her. It's better for her to realize this, and to get over him, than for her to think he's being honest to her when he's not.

[bloomskylove]

i showed her the proof a few days ago but she still doesn't want to believe me. he is in 7th grade, i'm in 8th, and she is in 9th. he did the same thing to me. we(my friend and i) go to a different school than he does so he thinks he can date one from each school. should i talk to him???

[Jahnavi]

Yes, I think you should talk to him. You can also ask an adult for help, if the problem gets out of hand.

[bloomskylove]

hey it's me again! i like this one kid but he doesn't like me that way. but whenever i talk to him or think about him i see my ex. i thought i had convinced myself that i didn't have anymore feelings for the idiot jerk! what do i do?????!!!!!!

[Jahnavi]

Sorry, but I didn't exactly understand what you said. Could you please explain it a little more?

[bloomskylove]

ok there is this kid i like and we are friends. he doesn't like me like that though. and another thing, whenever i look at him or any guy i see my jerk of an ex-boyfriend. i hope you can help!

[Jahnavi]

Well, for the first problem, if the guys not interested, just try to be friends with him for now. It's okay to like him, but don't bug him about it, or you could spoil your friendship.

As for the second problem, whenever you think of your ex, just remember why you broke up with him, and why it's time to move on. That's one of the easiest ways to forget about him.

Hope I could help.

[Stella303]

I have a bad habit...I argue. It seems like I ca't hep it but recently evry time I do the slightest thing, things I don't even mean to do (like arguing), ppl yell at me. I get blamed on everything! While all this is going on I have family problems and my best friend seems to be making other best friends, and those ppl are the ppl I hate most in the school! What should I do, pls help!

This post has been edited by Stella303: Nov 8 2008, 3:55 PM

[Jahnavi]

Whenever you feel really angry at something or someone, first count to 20 (or any number, depending on how long it takes) to calm yourself down. That way, you'll be able to think about the situation calmly, and you won't end up doing something drastic, that you'd regret.

Then, try this: When you're angry with someone, think about all the happy memories and good times you've had with that person. The more you think about those good times, the more you'll realize that it's not worth it to get angry.

Try to do this every time you feel angry with someone, I've tried it myself, and I've found that it really helps. =)

[Stella303]

Thank you, I'm sure it will help!

[Jahnavi]

You're welcome, glad I could help! ^^